It's kinda sad I have to ask...

Go online dude... I live in the middle of no where and with my work that was my only option. I've been with a wonderful woman for almost two years now that I met on Match.com . Check out Plenty of Fish, it's a free site or Match.com or one of the other pay sites to find someone that is willing to invest a small amount to find a companion. You'd would be amazed at all the interesting women you can meet online... You may not find your dream girl but you will certainly put yourself in the path of opportunity you otherwise would not have. IIRC I heard that 1 in 5 relationships today begin online...

 

church is a good place to meet girls

 

Im in the same boat bro. I just got divorced in February an I think im just gonna fly solo and see what happens. Ive had relationships inbetween relationships and never really been by myself. So I'm tryin it out.

 

dude i felt like i was reading my biography... we are alot alike... ur girlfriend is ur best friend, do anything and everything with. friends are cool, but gf is who you'd prefer to chill with. i may be in ur boat soon... my gf right now is pullin some weird shit. ive thought about things i am gonna start doin if it does end. im gonna go wheelin alot more, camping with friends. i joined an rc car club(i no lame but eh something to do) and i wanna play softball real bad. im gonna expand the number of people i chill with, friends of friends i hear are a great way to meet people.

 

number one ima vote against a dating site, im glad for you guys its worked for but doesn't seem lika good option, two the church idea would only be good if your into that lifestyle already, i met my lady at work a year ago, just kinda fell into my lap, dont be so anxious, thats how you'll miss something good that could fall into your lap

 

I concur. Thats why im just living it out an not trying to force anything

 

lol

 

Kyle,

I know what you're talking about. Just read what you wrote and I'm sure you can find the problem in there. You just go from one girl to another. When you do that you tend to bring with you the negative feelings toward your ex into the new relationship. And when you do that your mind and heart become confused. You can't separate the previous relationship with the first. You're not being fair to yourself, or the person you're with. You need to give yourself time so that you can repair yourself. There's nothing you can do about the person you were with, or for that matter the person you are with. The only person you can change is yourself.

So here's what you do. Stop looking and stop dating for a while. I would say 1 year at the least. Get to know Kyle. Start doing some introspection and find out what makes you tick. Like others said, take up a hobby. Find something you really enjoy doing that doesn't involve an intimate relationship. You're too young to let women fuck you up for the rest of your life. Worry about yourself. Because the bottom line is, if you're not happy with yourself then you can't possibly be happy with someone else.

Jon

 

Dude...No shit, I found my GF on Craigslist...Im dead ass serious. I was drunk one night and just posted up an add. I totally forgot about it, Checked my Emails one day I had about 30 of them, Then my current GF Emails me and sends a pic...Holy shit I said. So I Emailed her back and so on...Now were talking getting married in a year or so.

Craigslist...Who would of thunk?

 

x100 plus they're freaks in bed!!

 

Stay single for a bit. Enjoy some time to yourself to do the things you want to do. Get involved with some social activities. You will start to meet people and make friends as time goes on. You're young. Got plenty of time for girlfriends!

 

OK, here comes dinosaur with the life advice nuggets...........the harder you look the less you will find and/or what you do find won't be worth keepin. I suggest you develop your interests, follow your dreams, live your life and let it just happen. If you seem needy just because you don't have A girlfriend then that is a red flag to women. Just go about your business like it doesn't matter and things will fall into place. Never let a woman think you will fold up and die without her....even if that is the case. Or at least wait until you've been married happily for 25 yrs, then it's OK, lol.

 

After a 6 year relationship and subsequent break-up, I'd think you'd want some time to yourself for a while... Maybe 6-8 months... Take that time to party with the guys, bang raunchy sluts (just remember to wrap it up), and figure out who you are...

I chose to stay single for a long time after a 3 yr relationship and that really did me some good... I spent my time on my own terms and got my N.U.T.S. (Non-negotiable Unalterable Terms) back. There is actually a great book on that... I decided what I wanted out of life, who I really am, and what I stood for as a man...Basically my own personal values in life.

Further, I had a blast in the meantime!

Another thing I discovered when I was single for several years – most women seek out men either right before winter or right before spring. Break-ups typically come up before right after holidays… Maybe this was just my experience in life – but I also read that somewhere too.

Anyway, good luck man… Use this time to do your thang.

 

Same here. I found mine at www.okcupid.com (free). Online is good because you can usually single out those that you know you won't get along with so there's less trial and error.

OKCupid has a bunch of questions that you can answer to improve your candidate response. Then they rank your matches based on compatibility with your answers (e.g. 70% friendly, 10% enemy). If there's someone you thought you'd like but the friend/enemy score doesn't seem right, you can send the other person a WTF report and it will show you specifically where you differ in the questions you answered.

There was one girl who showed interest and she seemed like a good candidate based on her writeup but her enemy was kind of high for me (40%) so I sent a WTF report. Turned out she was into pot and we differed on some moral questions that were important to me. I couldn't really be around pot due to my job. So it was a good heads-up. I eventually found someone and later got married. Couldn't be happier.

Another thing that was good about the site is that it allowed you to rank someone based on their picture/writeup. If you rate someone as 4 or 5 stars, they'll get a notice that someone liked their profile. They'll then include random pictures/profiles along with yours (so the person doesn't know who rated them). If they select you as a 4 or 5 out of the batch, it'll notify both of you that you both expressed interest. It was a pretty good mechanism for my personality type.