Looking for input on 3" lifts

Hi, I know there is alot of info out there for the many lifts, just looking for some clarification.
I have a 09 double cab long box v6 4x4 TRD and would like to go 2.5 - 3" of lift (no extra weight upfront and no cap on the back). Im trying to decide between the OME and the bilstein kits, what ive gathered so far is that the bilstein kits (like on toytec) are a lot rougher then stock when set at the higher side to achive the 2.5-3" of lift (only going by what I have read from previous years threads). Is that kit better with the OME coils up front? The downside to this is im having trouble finding places near me(I live in the NWT) that will offer the kits with other options then those available on toytec. Now for the OME besides the standard "over bump goes clank" does the kit come with everything required for install (bearing drop and whatnot). Or is there a better way that someone could enlighten me about?