Need help deciding on wheels and tires for 6.5 inch lift!

Hey all,
I have an 09 Prerunner crew cab. I'm due for tires and decided what better time to lift and upgrade wheels/tires all at the same time. I'm having the hardest time deciding between 20x9's or 20x10's. I plan on 6.5 inch Maxtrac lift and I do like the aggressive stance look....but I've been scouring youtube and tacomaworld......sometimes it looks like 20x9 is aggressive enough, but then the tire place I've called usually say that 20x10 is what I want. In either wheel, I'm going with -12 offset....what is a good look but not obscene look with aggressive stance??

 

Honestly, IMHO 6.5" lifts are obscene, even more on 2wd trucks. No offence intended, but a nice 3" lift with some nice 17" wheels looks so much better.