New to TacomaWorld and need advice

I am leaving for a deployment for sixty days. When i return i plan on buying my first Tacoma. I currently own a small car that is good on gas, but i have a very good job and want to buy a quality vehicle that will last for a very long time. A Tacoma is the only truck that i want. I know this for a fact. I need some advice on specifically what type of Tacoma to buy. I know for a fact i need to buy a Quad cab since i have two daughters. I know i want a 2nd Gen Tacoma. I don't feel comfortable buying something more than five years old. I know Tacomas are known for their long life, but five years of ownership can be heaven or hell on a vehicle depending on the previous owner/owners and their driving/care habits.

I guess the main question i have is do a get a 4X4 or a Pre-Runner?

I have never owned a truck before and have no exact idea of what i will require it to do in the future. It will be my daily driver. I don't think i will be taking it off-road much, but you never know what may happen. I live in NC, so snow and ice is rarely a factor. My buddy has a 2010 Tacoma 4X4 Off-Road, and i know he would kill me if i was thinking of getting anything but a 4X4. I just don't know if it is worth the extra $5,000 plus. What do you guys think?

Also, what is the best method of purchasing?
Dealer, Private party locally, Tacoma World for sale forum?

This is all new to me and i would greatly appreciate any advice at all about the entire selection, buying process. Thanks guys.

 

It is my opinion, regarding a great many things, that it is better to have something and not need it, than it is to need something and not have it. Doubly so when matters of safety are concerned.

If you plan on off-roading one time, get a 4x4, because chances are you won't go off-roading just once. Also, 2x4s like to get stuck.

I do not like to purchase new. Depreciation hurts, unless you plan on keeping it forever.

Low mileage, used, from a reputable dealer will/should have some sort of warranty.

The other option would be to get a newer shiny 2x4, and then pick up a cheap 4x4 for off-roading from craigslist. This would allow you to have both, and not worry about getting to work the next day if you break your truck on the trail.

Just my $0.02