Newly divorced

007Tacoma · Oct 28, 2008

trcksr4grls said: ↑

LMAO thats my man, hunny, boo ... whatever he wants to be called.. he is a crazy fck'r and an azzhole but he's mine and I claim him.....lol right hunny!!!???
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LMAO! nice!

trcksr4grls · Oct 28, 2008

genxer36 said: ↑

I tried to date right after our split. I was trying to fill the void in my life. I dated a couple of women for a few months. It was not what I needed. After that I took some me time & didn't date for a couple of years. I just would hang out with friends and not worry about anything.
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Yeah trying to date right away is bad!!! It doesn't allow you to heal from the first situation and because you are trying to fill a void a lot of times you just get yourself into a bad situation.... take time for yourself and your daughter and let the rest fall into place....

007Tacoma · Oct 28, 2008

Well, I am crashing out... I have to bring my truck to North Park Toyota San Antonio at 7 AM...

Suspension TSB - Here I come!

swervin22 · Oct 28, 2008

genxer36 said: ↑

I've been divorced for 9 years. The first few were rough. My best advice is TIME. It will get better. It won't get better overnight. There isn't a quick fix. You will go through alot of shit with mixed emotions. Eventually down the road when you both have moved on you will hopefully get along. I get along great with my ex now. We talk occasionally as if we were friends. But in the begining we fought constantly. There was complete hatred towards each other.

What I did after my divorce is fill my life with things to do. I got a part time job delivering pizza. On my off days from my fulltime job. When I didn't have my Son, I would work. It was much better for me than sitting at home by myself feeling miserable. Plus the extra money helped. This way I was around other people & I could forget my problems for a while. For me alone time was the worst. Or hang out with friends more, or join a club.

If there is no way you can or want to reconcile with your ex. Then the best for you is to not have anything to do with her. Except where your daughter is concerned. Don't call the ex and talk about problems or how your day is. Find another friend to talk about things with.

I have a friend who came home from work oneday & his wife had moved out. He had no idea. This was last year, he was a complete wreck. He is much better now. But not completely healed.

I tried to date right after our split. I was trying to fill the void in my life. I dated a couple of women for a few months. It was not what I needed. After that I took some me time & didn't date for a couple of years. I just would hang out with friends and not worry about anything.

Once you get your mental state back on track. I would say at least a year or more. Just depends how long it takes you. The way you know you are over her is: You don't bring her up constantly in conversations. Or compare her with someone else.

When I was finally ready to date. I tried eharmony. Very expensive. It was an ok site. But now I use http://www.plentyoffish.com (completely FREE). the people on here seem to be just as good as on the eharmony site.

Good luck,
Sean
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thanks for the advice. apparently everyone goes through similar feelings. i do talk about her alot, compare her to everything from girls to f'n trees!! i dont really feel heart broken, but just a touch upset that we couldnt work it out. oh well, chances are, I will live!! im sure of it. just confused as all hell right now. she has been through a divorce before, and they are pretty good friends NOW, not when they first got apart, so i definitely see what you are saying. i'll be fine, just trying to get out of my current job, its an absolute drain on my brain and body, aside from everything else going on. just wanted to see what everyones thoughts were, and i am happy with everyones input. thanks

genxer36 · Oct 28, 2008

swervin22[OP] said: ↑

thanks for the advice. apparently everyone goes through similar feelings. i do talk about her alot, compare her to everything from girls to f'n trees!! i dont really feel heart broken, but just a touch upset that we couldnt work it out. oh well, chances are, I will live!! im sure of it. just confused as all hell right now. she has been through a divorce before, and they are pretty good friends NOW, not when they first got apart, so i definitely see what you are saying. i'll be fine, just trying to get out of my current job, its an absolute drain on my brain and body, aside from everything else going on. just wanted to see what everyones thoughts were, and i am happy with everyones input. thanks
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Good luck! Sounds like you are already on the road to recovery.

nd · Oct 29, 2008

007Tacoma said: ↑

4/5 counselors later, I told her to move out. I don't know if I can afford another one.
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well thats the problem, you only used four fifths of a counselor

007Tacoma · Oct 29, 2008

nd said: ↑

well thats the problem, you only used four fifths of a counselor
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I couldn't afford a full one, so I found one with a missing leg.

trcksr4grls · Oct 29, 2008

007Tacoma said: ↑

I couldn't afford a full one, so I found one with a missing leg.
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LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! I was just picturing that!!! lol

trcksr4grls · Oct 29, 2008

If your ex gets bad,If you really want to be evil..... oh man, I better not say....

luk8272 · Oct 29, 2008

"If your ex gets bad,If you really want to be evil..... oh man, I better not say.... "

Fill me in I have an EX that I really can't stand. I work 24 hr call and she isn't very understanding about it. I hardly ever get my daughter been home almost 2 weeks now and have only gotten her 2 times from 7:30am to about 7pm.

concrete jedi · Oct 29, 2008

If you're ever going to see a rainbow, gotta stand a little rain

Nitty Gritty Dirt band.

Leggo · Jan 25, 2011

keep it civil for the kid. always the child first, then stay away and move on with whats left of your life. Good luck and it does get better with time.

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