Probably getting divorced.

Interesting this went from "probably getting a divorce" to "everything is settled on who gets what, and we're using the savings to get the divorce paid for" all on page one.

 

well, we started talking about it because she wants to leave within 1-2 months.

 

Not casting anything your way, it just unfolded so quickly it was almost as if she'd already decided to leave the marriage and needed a catalyst to announce it.

Glad things are proceeding smoothly, hope that continues for you both.

 

Guess it's time to start making it rain.

 

You only get one life brother; and believe it or not, its not very long. Cut your ties, enjoy yourself and don't bother "looking." When you least realize it, happiness will find you, whether it is a great deal on a new Tacoma or the girl of your dreams you didn't know existed.

Seriously, I know its tough to swallow, but go buy some transformers and put it into perspective that she just doesn't get it. She couldn't cut the cord, which is supposed to be done when you get married and commit to someone.

You are better off. Keep yourself busy and before long you'll be happy that you let her go. There are plenty of good people (women) out there, trust me.

Good luck.

 

It's benificial to know when to "let go". Sometimes people grow together, sometimes they grow apart, consider yourself lucky when you see the signs and there are no kids involved that makes the separation more difficult.

Wish her the best, file for divorce so you can move on legally, mentally, and physically.

Good luck.

 

Verbal agreements are worth the paper they are written on. Pay off and close or remove names from accounts, seperate checking accounts now. Though , she says no to retirement or alimony get it on paper but check with the attorney to see if it is valid for her to agree to that. Names off vehicles and insurance etc . It now becomes a business deal as sad as that is .

Cypher

 

know you stated your not looking for advice, as i wasn't looking for a post like this on tw. but here we are. before you pull the trigger on this ask the one you vowed to to give you wisdom and strength in your marriage. saved mine and me! wish you the best either way it goes.

 

You will be very lucky if she doesn't take half, savings, retirement, house, valuables ect. She's entitled to half. Any lawyer will let her know & help her. The longer you wait to sit in front of a lawyer & draw up this agreement where you get your cake & eat it too the more likely someone gets in her ear & she changes her mind. Women do change their minds.

 

4 what it is worth you are not ending your relationship because of $. From your first post. This is good. You may end up getting back together again, guess now is not the time.

 

Meeting with the lawyer tonight. Everything is laid out on paper and will be signed by both of us tonight.

 

Going through the first step of divorce myself. Completely different situation but similar that my wife wants out not I. I would do anything to keep my family together and have tried. We have 2 kids so it's even tougher. I work 50 plus hrs a week and most weekends and would walk off the job right now if it would make a difference. If you feel your job is more important then you've already answered your question. Money wont make you happy if the one you love isn't their with you. Doesn't sound like she's giving you much choice though so leaving your job and moving may be a big mistake since it doesn't sound like she cares if you come with her. I don't mean to sound harsh but that's what iv found in the last 5 month Iv been trying to convince her this is not a good decision. On the bright side Iv been talking to other friends that have gone through it and helped make me realize this is not the end of the world. Some times the road doesn't end, it just turns in a different direction.

 

holy crap..

since she is basically letting the marriage go for such a tiny reason..i agree with some of the posters..she quit a long time ago, and just found her "out".

i'd be cool and let her go. nice and easy. good luck bud.

 

Sorry to hear man, but I agree with you wanting to keep a good paying job with benfits. Job markets hard right now. especialy if your in a special feild of work. Im not sure id be able to pick up and go with a somewhat decent job in the works.