1. Welcome to Tacoma World!

    You are currently viewing as a guest! To get full-access, you need to register for a FREE account.

    As a registered member, you’ll be able to:
    • Participate in all Tacoma discussion topics
    • Communicate privately with other Tacoma owners from around the world
    • Post your own photos in our Members Gallery
    • Access all special features of the site

Quitting Drinking....

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by Mr Wiggles, Jan 13, 2009.

  1. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:31 PM
    #1
    Mr Wiggles

    Mr Wiggles [OP] Supergroovalisticprosifun kstication

    Joined:
    Dec 15, 2008
    Member:
    #11589
    Messages:
    247
    Gender:
    Male
    So I've been a vetran drinker, a good canadian kid for pretty much my whole adult life. Other than a sober 21 days last january (did that to win a bet), a day rarely passes when i don't have 2 or 3 drinks minimum and get maybe not smashed can't talk drunk, but definitely low inhibition/can't drive drunk at least once a week.

    All this changed on New Year's Day. One of the most hungover days of the year for many of us, i was at a 5 * hotel tucked in the mountains with my girlfriend that i paid a fortune for and was hungover until 7 pm. Part of my lovely hangover (which happened the last 4 or 5 times i got smashed) was puking that included blood.

    So my girl and i decided to not drink in January at all and she urged me to go to my doctor, who told me that not only had i wrecked my stomach lining, but my kidney function is down to about 60%. No drinking for 1 month, doctors orders, and then more tests.

    Every cloud has a silver lining right? Well this whole thing has spurned me to get back to the gym (go once a day now) and eat right (whole foods only, nothing processed and limiting my caloric intake to about 2000-2300/day). I've gained 30 pounds since May, mostly due to drinking, and am about 40 pounds overweight overall. Though i'm one of those people that can gain or lose 5 pounds but you can't tell because of my frame.

    So, what this has also done is motivated me to make some real goals and stick to them. The first of course is shedding the 40 extra pounds i'm lugging around (i'm 5'11" and currently weigh 220). My goal is to be at 185 by June 30. Also, i want to have single digit bodyfat % by my 30th birthday, on Nov 5, 2010.

    This brings me to the point of my post. I am seriously considering giving up drinking for good, even though it's been such a big part of my life. Has anyone on here successfully done so? I wouldn't say i was/am an alcoholic, but i would definitely be truthful in saying i had a drinking problem.

    Some concerns:

    Boredom during social occasions, a drink's always a good crutch
    Work. I drink with clients fairly often
    Being annoyed/short tempered with drunk friends even though i was totally 'that guy'


    Any thoughts? stories? feel free to razz me too :D
     
  2. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:32 PM
    #2
    -TRDMAN-

    -TRDMAN- ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ

    Joined:
    Dec 18, 2006
    Member:
    #514
    Messages:
    2,201
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Greg
    Clarion Pa
    Vehicle:
    F-150
    ??????
     
  3. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:36 PM
    #3
    eordonez

    eordonez Living vicariously through mjp2

    Joined:
    Mar 17, 2008
    Member:
    #5340
    Messages:
    8,341
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Ed
    Chihuahua, Mexico
    Vehicle:
    TRD Sport Dcab 4x2 Black Sand Pearl
    OEM All Weather Mats, wheel locks, Toyota Silver Tube steps.....
    well, good luck on your process man, ive had some cousins that went that way and ended up not drinking for life....
     
  4. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:38 PM
    #4
    lsocoee

    lsocoee My hair is all natural Moderator

    Joined:
    Feb 9, 2007
    Member:
    #872
    Messages:
    10,165
    First Name:
    Hotdog
    Vehicle:
    2007 PreRunner SR5 Double Cab
    Wet Okole Underwear
    I always enjoyed watching the drunks get crazy and then messing with them. Good luck with January. Even if you don't make it all the way through, a drastic reduction in consumption is still a moderate victory.
     
  5. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:40 PM
    #5
    Toy4Life

    Toy4Life 668: The Neighbor of the Beast

    Joined:
    Aug 29, 2007
    Member:
    #2566
    Messages:
    4,970
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Chad
    Slippery Rock, PA
    Vehicle:
    96 Subaru Outback 2.2 5mt
    92 4Runner SR5 3.0v6 4x4(sold) 02 Tacoma SR5 TRD Offroad 4x4 (sold)
    Been there, sort of. My problems were more legal than health related. I still drink, but barely. It takes time and often more than one attempt. I'm married with 2 kids and I'll be 30 in September of this year. Once I had kids, I grew up, the drinking went away when the responsibillities of fatherhood came along.

    I'm not saying go get your girl knocked up, but......maybe it's time to re-evaluate your life.
     
  6. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:42 PM
    #6
    concrete jedi

    concrete jedi Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 20, 2007
    Member:
    #3142
    Messages:
    2,741
    Rochester N.Y
    Vehicle:
    06 Tacoma 4 door indigo blue
    Broken and scratched tailgate, cracked rear tail light lens, coffee stain in driver seat.
    Good for you ! I never had such issues, but had friends who did. For you my friend I feel it's the only way. My friend who quit found that it took very little time to adjust, but is so much happier, and healthier. I am certain your true friends will understand and support you. I might have a few beers once and a while, maybe a twelve in a year, and could stop all together and would not miss it. Be strong and move forward.
     
  7. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:43 PM
    #7
    KMN-BLU

    KMN-BLU less work/more play

    Joined:
    Dec 30, 2008
    Member:
    #12021
    Messages:
    1,063
    Gender:
    Male
    Destin, Fl
    Vehicle:
    2016 Limited DCSB 4x4 Blazing Blue
    I have had my own issues in the past that I struggled with although it wasnt with drinking. It took one day that led to two days and so forth and so on. It takes a support system that helps you cope rather than contributes to the issue. It make seperating yourself from those "friends". Its a struggle but before you know it that one day will be one hundred and soon you will ask yourself why you ever did that to yourself. I have been away from everything for almost 2 years now so I can relate. You have friends here so continue to reach out to them as you are. Stay focused on your goal and DO NOT look backwards in your life. We all have demons and challenges put before us. Its the ones that accept that challenge like a huge hill your gonna climb that make it over the top. Stay strong and stay focused. You will make it to the top.
     
  8. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:44 PM
    #8
    JimmyCrackCorn

    JimmyCrackCorn Atlanta Falcons

    Joined:
    Dec 4, 2008
    Member:
    #11292
    Messages:
    766
    Gender:
    Male
    Cumming, GA (N. Atlanta Area)
    Vehicle:
    2008 Black PreRunner TRD Sport
    Aero Kit, 3" Lift, 18% All Around Tint, 50% Windshield Tint, MO 957's (Polished), 285/65/18 Terra Grappler's
    Elias, I sent you a PM!
     
  9. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:45 PM
    #9
    -TRDMAN-

    -TRDMAN- ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ

    Joined:
    Dec 18, 2006
    Member:
    #514
    Messages:
    2,201
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Greg
    Clarion Pa
    Vehicle:
    F-150
    ????? I AM LOST ?????.....











    J/k GOOD LUCK WITH IT!!!!
     
  10. Jan 13, 2009 at 1:59 PM
    #10
    TacoCo

    TacoCo Aspiring wrench monkey

    Joined:
    Aug 13, 2008
    Member:
    #8512
    Messages:
    913
    Gender:
    Male
    Colorado
    Vehicle:
    09 TRD Off-Road DC V6 Magnetic Gray
    Snugtop XV Shell, Yakima Rack, AFE Pro Dry Filter, Secondary Air Filter Removed, Michelin AT2's, Partially Debadged, HID conversion, Dynomax Super Turbo Muffler, Rear leaf spring TSB, Foglights always on Mod, URD Short Throw Shifter, Toytec Coilovers on the way!
    My best advice is for you to do what you feel is right for you. I quit drinking and doing drugs for 4 years after a long string of bad black out episodes and poor decisions... Lost a bunch of weight, got myself in the best shape I've been in since high school, dated several beautiful women, went to some AA meetings here and there, bought a house, and got engaged. After giving it a lot of thought and discussing things with my finace (now wife), examining my past, why I drank like I did, and where I am now, I decided that I'd give drinking a shot again as long as I stayed away from drugs and kept things under control. So far, it has worked for me. I'm in a completely different place than I was back then, and don't drink like I did at all.

    I don't want to bash AA, if you choose to do that kinda thing, because I believe that it works for a lot of people that really need help. In AA, they will do everything they can to convince you that you hit the ground running as soon as you start take that first drink, but I had to find out for myself, and it hasn't been the case for me at all. I'm glad that I took the time off, and I learned a lot, but I'm also glad that I can drink responsibly and enjoy a glass of wine with my wife over dinner. Good luck to you in whatever you choose, just remember who you're doing it for.
     
  11. Jan 13, 2009 at 2:06 PM
    #11
    Toy4Life

    Toy4Life 668: The Neighbor of the Beast

    Joined:
    Aug 29, 2007
    Member:
    #2566
    Messages:
    4,970
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Chad
    Slippery Rock, PA
    Vehicle:
    96 Subaru Outback 2.2 5mt
    92 4Runner SR5 3.0v6 4x4(sold) 02 Tacoma SR5 TRD Offroad 4x4 (sold)
    That's pretty much my story. Sometimes, you just need to grow up.
     
  12. Jan 13, 2009 at 2:11 PM
    #12
    Mr Wiggles

    Mr Wiggles [OP] Supergroovalisticprosifun kstication

    Joined:
    Dec 15, 2008
    Member:
    #11589
    Messages:
    247
    Gender:
    Male
    Guys, i'm blown away. Thanks so much for the stories and support.

    What TacoCo said really strikes a chord with me. i am sure i can reach a different point in my view and use of alcohol sometime down the road but there is a long period of learning i'm prepared for.
     
  13. Jan 13, 2009 at 2:23 PM
    #13
    TacoCo

    TacoCo Aspiring wrench monkey

    Joined:
    Aug 13, 2008
    Member:
    #8512
    Messages:
    913
    Gender:
    Male
    Colorado
    Vehicle:
    09 TRD Off-Road DC V6 Magnetic Gray
    Snugtop XV Shell, Yakima Rack, AFE Pro Dry Filter, Secondary Air Filter Removed, Michelin AT2's, Partially Debadged, HID conversion, Dynomax Super Turbo Muffler, Rear leaf spring TSB, Foglights always on Mod, URD Short Throw Shifter, Toytec Coilovers on the way!
    Exactly... college only lasts for 4 years, well at least for most of us :D

    You've already taken a step in the right direction. Good luck to you man.
     
  14. Jan 13, 2009 at 2:27 PM
    #14
    CheeseWithTaco

    CheeseWithTaco Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 17, 2008
    Member:
    #11680
    Messages:
    336
    Gender:
    Male
    Tucson, Az
    Vehicle:
    02 PreRun DubCab Lunar
    grrr...
    i threw up blood up once. but i thought it was the mexican beer tecate, while in mexico. i dont remembering throwing up but woke up with dark black red purple brown stuff on the bed. will never drink tecate again....

    i've been drinking around a 12 pack a day for quite a whlie now. i know i cant do this forever, and i know i have a really bad drinking problem.
     
  15. Jan 13, 2009 at 2:27 PM
    #15
    billas333

    billas333 They Still Love To Hate Me! - T.O.

    Joined:
    Nov 12, 2008
    Member:
    #10698
    Messages:
    928
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Joel
    NorCal
    Vehicle:
    2008 4x4 Tacoma Sport
    Mods so far: Tube steps from toyota, Bed extender from toyota, Spare Tire lock, Sound System Makeover, Tacoma All-Weather heavy duty rubber floor mats. Rear TSB, Icon Coilovers w/ TC UCA's and 3inch rear block with rear 5100 bilstein shocks, Black Headlights, Grillcraft black grill, Devil Horns from Andres, Black Headlights, Chrome Liquid Metal Gatlins Wheels, 285/70R17 Nitto Tera Grapplers, Wet Okole Seat Covers! Seat Belt Chime Mod, Flowmaster 50 series dual exhaust, Debadged tailgate, TRD Decals, HID hi/low + fogs.
    Hey man first of all congrats on your goals set! I work and manage a GNC and know quite a bit about nutrition. I am not a super star fitness guru as I too enjoy drinking as well. My new years res has been to cut it out for the most part except special occasions like st pattys and friends bdays or what not. Just do not drink every day or every weekend like I used too. If you need any help or advice on nutrition just let me know and I will be happy to help out :)
     
  16. Jan 13, 2009 at 2:36 PM
    #16
    Paulywallnutz

    Paulywallnutz Active Member

    Joined:
    Aug 14, 2007
    Member:
    #2430
    Messages:
    29
    Bakersfield Cali.
    Vehicle:
    08 DBL Cab
    6" Pro Comp lift, Billet Grill, JVC AVX-780 head unit, B/U camera with bluetooth and GPS
    Elias:

    It sounds to me that your on a road to some self discovery, and for that I congradulate you. To many times a man may go his whole life and not GET IT
    and not realize the things that are truly important to you I/E your health and with out it, how quickly your perspective's changes. Take one day at a time because it's my belief you really only have control of the here and now and don't beat your self up to badly when things dont go just the way you want them to. Ask for help because as you see here we all have had our fare share of the roller coaster we call life!! There will always be ups and downs it just depends on how you go about dealing with it. Don't waist time because thats the last thing that is afforded to us! Stay strong true and focused and good things will come your way!!

    Paul.
     
  17. Jan 13, 2009 at 2:41 PM
    #17
    mws4ua

    mws4ua I'll try being nicer if you try being smarter.

    Joined:
    May 14, 2008
    Member:
    #6624
    Messages:
    7,075
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Matt
    Birmingham
    Vehicle:
    Sold my truck Jan '13... Still hang around.
    You're puking up blood and you have Doctors telling you that you're damaging your body. Nobody on an internet board will be able to provide any more compelling reason to quit than those. It sounds like you've used the motivation to stop drinking for now, which is fantastic.

    What you have to ask yourself is this: Is drinking with clients and having something to hold in your hand at parties worth risking further damage to your body? Is it worth dying younger than you otherwise would?

    I used to drink more than I do now. I didn't have any traumatic experience like you did. I just decided that it wasn't worth the hangovers, extra calories, extra money and occasional embarrassment. I've found that messing with drunks at parties is about as much fun as drinking anyway.

    I am in no position to tell you to stop drinking, for sure, but it sounds like drinking for you could seriously damage your health. If I were you I'd quit while I was ahead.

    Good luck with it. Let us know how the additional tests turn out.
     
  18. Jan 13, 2009 at 2:48 PM
    #18
    sAm I aM

    sAm I aM Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 14, 2008
    Member:
    #7306
    Messages:
    145
    Gender:
    Male
    Jacksonville, AR
    Vehicle:
    08 TRD 4x2
    Flowmaster .50 ries xhaust, K&N Filter
    Its interesting to me after reading b/c I just finished the alcohol program part of my course. I commend you for wanting to make the change in your life. Just from my life experience I have seen the effects of alcoholism in someones life and would hate to see the end results happen to you. Not saying you are an alcoholic. Having a drink every now and then is not a bad thing but unfortunately for some people it is their fix and going back to it can be there downfall. There are also numerous medical conditions that can result from drinking too much and to me its just not worth the risk. I'll pray for you in your decisions. Good luck.

    Anyone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong on these...

    Liver Disease: Avg adult can oxidize one drink per hour. Chronic heavy alcohol use can also cause buildup of triglycerides or tatty tissues in the liver impairing its capacity to metabolize alcohol. Hepatitis or inflammation of the liver tissue may occur from excessive intake and may lead to cirrhosis of the liver which involves formation of scarring tissue so that it can no longer eliminate ethanol from the body. Alcoholic hepatitis can be reversible if drinking is stopped.

    Alcoholic cirrhosis: Scarring of the liver in 10-20% of heavy drinkers. May require a liver transplant. A reverse tolerance effect occurs may occur in heavy chronic drinkers due to reduced capacity for metabolizing alcohol consumed.

    Brain diseases: Thiamine deficiencies are seen in up to 80% of alcoholics and can cause severe neurological problems such as seen in Wernicke/Korsakoff syndrome.

    Wernike's encephalopathy: Sever deficiency in vitamin B1 and is marked by rapid onset of headaches, double vision, abnormal eye movements, tingline sensations and numbness, muscular incoordiantion, stupor and brain hemorrhage.

    Korsakoff's psychosis: B1 deficiencies results in irreversible brain damage, hallucinations, loss of short term memory, and fabrications of stories to fill in black out gaps.

    Can show signs of improvement in brain structure and functioning within a year of quitting.
     
  19. Jan 13, 2009 at 4:02 PM
    #19
    squad314

    squad314 Thinks he's Steve McQueen

    Joined:
    Dec 1, 2007
    Member:
    #3665
    Messages:
    2,555
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Marc
    Into the mystic....(foggy Saint John, NB)
    Vehicle:
    TRD Sport+Leather 4x4
    Front 5100's @2.5", Rear 5125's with AAL. Light Racing UCA's, Factory hood deflector, Sirius Sportster 5, TRD air filter, Weathertech's f&r, "Hello Kitty" steering wheel cover.
    First off I commend you and your girl for recognizing that there is a problem.Every situation is different and I wish you well in finding the solution that fits.

    I stopped drinking in February of '04 when I made a commitment to quitting chewing tobacco.I don't know if I was a heavy drinker but I loved beer and in my day certainly put away a pile.I am the father of three and drinking was slowly starting to not work.I'm a shift worker and spent my days off at home with my babies.Being hungover wasn't an option and I owed it to them to be on the ball as much as possible.

    I certainly missed it and sometimes didn't attend occassions that would be heavy on the drink.My buddies all respected what I was doing and the spin-off was saving a PILE of money.My weekends are consumed with family now so the idea of drinking in excess just isn't appealling.

    My kids are a little older now and just this Christmas I decided to start having a few Beers again.I actually see it as an opportunity to teach my kids about drinking responsibly and I'm really enjoying the social aspect of having a couple of Pops with my friends.

    As I said,I admire you for wanting a healthier lifestyle.........Do what's right for you.Thre's been some excellent advice here,people want you to do well.
     
  20. Jan 13, 2009 at 4:07 PM
    #20
    Delmarva

    Delmarva Mayor of TW

    Joined:
    Oct 22, 2008
    Member:
    #10148
    Messages:
    35,850
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Mike
    Tucson, AZ
    Vehicle:
    12 Tundra TRDRW
    Nada, Zip, Zilch, Nothing
    You can do it -- congrats on your decision.. TW will be here to support you!
     
To Top