Relationship advice? sorta..

Well I'll try to make it short...Last july (2009) I met a girl, we really kicked it off, things were going great. Well it only lasted 6 months... until december, but we really got attached to each other. I was asking for too much...but she kept saying she wasn't ready.

Well we broke it off at the end of last year. I had gotten so mad at myself that I just wanted to get away from home...so I did something really strange...I ended up buying last minute round trip ticket for myself to New Zealand,, it was a great adventure. but anyways..

about one month passes and she calls (feb 2010) we speak...catch up on things. We speak a few more times in the month of Feb.

Then I decide FUCK, I need to get her out of my head...so I erase her number and never answer her calls....this was at the end of feb 2010.

We live 30 miles apart and I am going to school in her home town.. we never once ran into each other....at school. She went evenings, I went days.

June of 2010 comes around and Im moving away...feeling like I need some closure I go to her house looking for her to say goodbye...she wasn't there at the moment so I leave a letter saying that I'm moving away with my phone number on it. I also tell her how I missed her and crap like that.

So she emails back saying the same kinda stuff.."every time she saw a black tacoma it reminded her of me" now I have awhite one.

She calls back late June...we speak on and off until august but not once to we meet cuz well I just moved 250 miles away.

We speak a few times in august and this month (Sept 2010). She took a road trip to Dallas with her friends...then they drove to San Antonio on the way back, she called twice last night (sept 12 2010) around midnight, I was asleep....she texts 3 messages saying she's gonna be in town...

So I call her back around 1 am cuz now I'm wide awake. At this point I am positive that she wants to see me...we don't make any plans cuz im half asleep and agreed to speak in the morning.

Morning goes by, I go to school...get out at noon, and ask her if she wants to hang out for a few hours before she hits the road to go back home. She says yes...

We see each other again for the first time since December...I was real happy to see her...she was happy to see me to.

We hang out...we part seperate ways after about three hours..

Now Im just confused...what to think...she won't get out of my thoughts the rest of today....

I would love to try and make things work out but I don't know if I should just try and forget her or try and see what happens.

What do you guys think? and please no dissing her...

just a few more things.....I had never been in a relationship until I met her. I fell hard for this chick and it just sucks that I cant get over her. I know we only saw each other for 6 months, but those few months kicked ass.

all I ever did before her was one night stands...and now my hearts been aching since december.

 

You lay down and I'll kick you in the nuts as hard as I can. It will be alot less painful!

 

I would tell you to try and talk to her to see what she wants and hopefully you can reassure her that you ain't gonna rush into anything crazy (since that seems to be the reason for the first break) & that you just miss her company and whatever else that stood out from the relationship. If you really mean it she'll see it for that and hopefully will agree with you.

the worse thing you could do is nothing.. and live in regret ...waking up saying " why didn't I say what I wanted." Things do happen for a reason and from what you just stated it's been happening to the both of you.

BUT if it does not work out when you try and talk to her DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT!! do anything stupid, it just wasn't meant to be.

 

I say give it a shot. Better to know and be pissed for a bit then never know and always wonder

 

give it a shot. who knows what might happen.

 

i wouldn't rush into anything or try anything serious. but you should at least try something to test the waters and see how/if things could work out. when both of you have some time to see each other, both of you should meet halfway of that 250 miles and hang out all day on a weekend. see if it's even possible to have a relationship with that distance. if it's not possible but you still want her, keep in touch at least, and stay friends. maybe one day things will be easier to work out with her and ya'll will be closer. the worst thing you can do is sit there and do nothing. you will always wonder what would have happened.

 

Damn, good thing you made it short!! LOL

 

x2!
If its for you it won't go by you
Wish you the best

 

Go for it. Live a life lacking of regrets.

 

It seems that she is unsure, just give it time. Talk to her here and there, don't the Cat and she be the mouse, let her approach you. Women think a lot about stuff and she will think about you and wonder what you are doing and how you are.

 

Tell her "pimpin' aint easy" and that you are not "chasing water falls" and that this "california love" needs "two to tango". She will melt

 

Well I spoke to her last night, we talked for 2 hours straight. She said that she's been in a long distance relationship before and it didn't work out.

I called around 10 pm...she didn't answer as she was still on the road. So I text her saying..

"You've been on my mind all day since you left, and I don't know what to do. Just tell me can there ever be anything between us or should I just forget it?"...

My exact words. So she calls bout half an hour later..she kinda avoids the elephant in the room then I ask her if she can answer the question. She stays quiet for a bit and then starts saying how her heart is beating really fast...then she tells me that she doesn't want to lead me on or give me false hope.

Needless to say I felt so much better after telling her how I felt and her answering my question. Although she says she really likes talking to me and doesnt want to stop.

It really feels like I'm picking at a scab that I'm not letting heal. FUCK!



Just needed a place to uuuh rant I guess...I never talk to anybody bout this kinda crap. Here I know atleast I'll get some good responses including.. a kick to the nuts from the first post.

Ima give it more time though, even ask her if she wants to meet half way on a weekend.

Thanks for your responses guys.

 

Here's my opinion, end of the day its completely your call so take this as you will... How old are you? Reason I ask, if you're like 17 or 18, don't do the long distance thing when you're trying to get a relationship off the ground. It's extremely hard and doesn't work very often. Also, if you're that young, you'll get over her, it may not seem like it at the moment, but you will and you'll move on. Who knows, maybe somewhere down the line your paths will cross again under better circumstances and it'll work out great.

 

Things like this have a way of working themselves out one way or another. Be patient, talk with her (not at her) if you enjoy it, and let it happen either way.
I'm too old to respond to these posts, but I've had more than my share of "relationships" with 3 marriages and 3 live-ins... so I have an idea what I'm talking about.

 

Well said sir!

 

I agree, things like this usually work themselves out. Talk to her from time to time. Im a firm believer in if it's suppose to be it will be. Things like this you gotta take day to day. Don't worry about the future. Good Luck and I hope it works out for ya.

 

Well put, this being your first relationship you are in love with something you have not had before. That being said you don't have a lot of relationship experiences so you may think you know what you want, but I'm telling you, you don't. Give it time, don't waste your life hanging on her every move, but keep in touch with her, you never know what may happen. Good luck.

 

^ x3.. You never do get over that! Thats why I married mine! With a few people in between, including another marriage! (That one did'nt work out.) I reconected with her through a friend pretty much by accident. The rest is history! Let me ask you this, did you make her a mix tape?

 

holy shit i got it!!!!
thats gonna be the next big chick flick love story movie
you need to sell the rights to that story to paramount pictures
but dont get screwed make sure you get a percentage of the royalties
(then i get a percentage of that for the whole idea)
then quit your job
marry your 1st true love
move to new zealand
dont forget your tacoma
and live happily ever after

BOOM!! problem solved

your welcome