Relative newbie: 2013 double cab build

Howdy;
probably most of this has been addressed elsewhere, I have searched some of this here and elsewhere so sorry for any repetitive bandwidth.
My 2005 Access cab 4x4 V6 6 speed manual was totaled a few weeks ago. Bummer.
It was stock, except for 265/75/16's and an Ironman 2" lift which came with new coil-over and rear leaves. Nice enough kit; rode well, worked well on the national forest fire road bunny trails I built it for. Went together easy, aligned well with no need for new upper control arms. I had the slighlty heavier springs in anticipation of adding front bumper/winch, rear bumper, and sliders. Never got to that because of the wreck..No complaints with the lift kit, and it was nicely cost effective.
I've read about the Bilstein 5100 route, and the OME route. After having owned the Ironman stuff, I don't see which I should go another route, really. Maybe I'm missing something though...

I had Toyota baja wheels and 265/75/15 BFG Rugged terrains. The 265/75/16 seems to be a stock size, on some trucks. The 265's didn't seem to mess with power band, and didn't rub. But if I can get 285's under there without killing powerband/mileage, maybe I'd consider that. I don't recall is there was extra room under the truck for a 285 spare; the 265 spare fit with no problem.

I replaced the wreck with a 2013 double cab V6 auto. I'm inclined to do the same Ironman lift kit. It's cost effective, easy enough to install, and I don't want or need the added cost of upper control arms with this when it seems avoidable.
I'm inclined to do the same size tires, unless 285 BFG AT's will fit without rubbing, and without jacking performance and making wish I hadn't; because I'd rather not re-rear front and rear axles.

The stock limited slip rear diff in the 2005 seemed ok enough, and the 2013 has that as well. But I've thought about adding the factory rear e-locker. If the Tacoma is like several FJ Cruiser's I've worked on, all the wiring is already in place, and it's a simple matter of dropping in the e-locker diff, plugging into the factory wiring harness, and adding the switch on the dash...does this hold true for the Tacomas?

For the bumper, I've looked at the ARB which seems nice and will hold a warn 9.5. The Relentless Fabrication aluminum front bumper for less weight seems like maybe a good idea. Helps offset the weight of the winch. The Relentless weld together rear would be inside my skill set, and bending sliders is probably something I can do, though the Relentless sliders seem nice too; though their webpage indicates a 5 month build time!!!

Does this all seem on track for a light duty daily driver/vacation wheeler? I've built many a Land Cruiser for myself, and for club members. I've had old solid axle pickups and 4Runners. But this 2nd Gen truck with an auto is all new turf for me.

thanks for advice and keeping me on track.

 

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