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He just asked what my address is.

I know I'm not at the top of his list but at least look up the transaction!

 

Maybe that's why you haven't received a plate, he's been sending them to the wrong address

 

Sadly, I think you might be right.

 

New poll.....

My in-laws came over Sunday to bring Christmas presents to us because we refused to go there for respect reasons. It's a long story but it is what it is.

My MIL handed me a check, I didn't look at the name on it but it said $100, I laid it face down on the table beside me. A minute or two later I notice her hand my wife one, she laid it on the counter in the kitchen.

They gave us a check for our wedding 10+ years ago and gave us a little cash for Christmas about 4 years ago. That's the only time they've ever given us money, we've never ask for any.

I have both of the checks in my wallet and told my wife I was going to put them in our savings account. How long do I wait?

It's super nice of them to give it to us and I appreciate it. I don't want to run to the bank like we're desperate for it if that makes sense.

My in-laws ALWAYS have ulterior motives........

The kids and I went to the bank yesterday to deposit my check from work, I didn't deposit theirs.

 

Cash it immediately then buy them Big Texan gift cards.

 

Seriously, though, if it was my in-laws (reminder - we haven't talked to them in over a year even though they live one mile away), I probably wouldn't cash it at all.

 

Let me add this to show you where we stand with them. They went to Alabama to visit my wife's brother and his wife and their kids for a week for Christmas and just got home Saturday. When my wife ask them to come to the house Sunday they said they would be there about 1:30 that afternoon cause pawpaw had to coach his fantasy football team later. They stayed for an hour or less.

 

Personally, I like to get checks in the account quicker, mostly out of respect to my older in-laws or my wife’s grandparents. I know they’re still set in their old ways of manually balancing their finances and sometimes holding checks creates confusion when it’s not drawn from their account.
Although, it sounds like a touchy issue but I’d just say that maybe a week or 2 would be acceptable.

 

Yes, respectable me wants to go ahead and do it because my MIL is on top of stuff like that, the other side doesn't want to do it for spite but that's not who I am

 

Table columns are done.

 

For my in-laws, that's totally who my wife and I are, but they've burned that bridge.

And can I get "never" added to he poll?

 

Added.

My in-laws have said some pretty bad stuff to us, disrespected us in front of our kids, etc. The straw that broke the camels back was back in October for our daughters 5th birthday I smoked a boston butt, they were going to eat supper with us, my mother in law made BBQ slaw and brought it. We were going to eat around 6, they left for no reason about 5:45 when some other people left, my kids were devastated. I told my wife I was done. If she wanted to go to their house she can but me and the kids absolutely were not. I will not have them treat their grand kids that way and think it's okay. My wife talked to them about it, nothing changed. They live 15 minutes from us. My parents live 3 minutes from us, my daughter has been to their house once in 5 years. It's no better on that side anymore.

My MIL wanted her container back with the slaw in it, about 3 weeks later my wife gave it to her with the slaw in it, we didn't touch it.

Luckily my kids have 2 friends of ours in there 60's who they call grandma and grandpa, they treat them like grandkids should be treated, they are of no relation to us.

 

Liked for recognition, not because I like it.

I'll do my damnedest but I hope I don't end up like her parents. Or mine, for that matter, who moved back to Georgia and we see, at most, once a year.

 

That's what we tell our kids, if we're ever blessed to have grandkids they will have to ask us to leave cause we are going to be over all the time

Our son and daughter have a great relationship, I told my son once "when you and Sadie grow up, get married, etc. call her at least once a week and tell her you love her" 4 seconds later I said "call your mom and dad and tell us you love us too"

 

Grandparents can be such an influence on kids, it’s sad when they don’t want to take part for whatever reason. Both my wife and I had wonderful grandparents, and we were both devastated when we lost them. I also have great in-laws, so seeing that not everyone does makes me realize I’m lucky. Thanks for sharing your stories guys.

 

I’ve done more to this in the last 10 minutes than I have the last 3 months

Y'all see that bent front rack? Can't have that

 

Im like a lotta u guys. Ive never asked my inlaws for anything , but they are very generous. They say they would rather see us enjoy the inheritance while they are alive. Uh , ok ? Saw this on the web and thought it fit u machine shop guys well.

 

All of my grandparents passed before I was born. I had a couple in my life growing up that were sorta like grandparents though. My parents are awesome grandparents to my brothers daughter, our niece. My wife put her foot down (with good reason) to my mom about 7 years ago and it went south from there. My mom is the type of person if you're not blood, you aren't family. I hate it for all of us, especially my kids and my parents, they are missing out on 2 wonderful grand kids.

 

I’ve had one HUGE beef with my in-laws and it was at the birth of our first son. My wife and I had mutual agreement and feelings towards the fact that I was going to be the only other person in the delivery room. Everyone in our family and friends were well aware of this in advance and it was even spelled out in our official birth plan that the hospital was not to admit anyone else unless it was a code red emergency and there needed to be.
Flash forward to the delivery day, it was day 3 of an induced labor and we were all tired and our son had just arrived, he was born with a fever, so the standard protocol was to whisk him away to the nursery and have him put on antibiotics via IV. So I went with him while my wife had post pregnancy stuff done. My mother in law was flipping out that she wasn’t getting a response from either of us. ( I mean, really????!?!! We just had a kid and we’re exhausted and frazzled that we were separated)
The front desk and nurses wouldn’t give out any information because of privacy HIPA stuff. So she started FLIPPING OUT thinking her daughter and grandson were dead or something worse case) my wife finally contacted her and had her approved to come up into the room. I was still in the nursery with our son and came back to the room where my wife was to find her in tears, on what was to be one of the happiest days of her life.
her mother had ripped into her telling her that she thought she or her grandson was dead, and guilt tripped her into feeling bad about not allowing her into the delivery room for the birth.
It takes a LOT for me to lose my shit... but this was a moment I will never forget, I immediately found her and threatened her that if she ever treated MY family like that again, she would never see her grandson at my will!
That was my shit show in law story. Thought I should add to it!