So GF and I decided to take a break....

You'll find the mind of a woman can be more confusing than trying to read a different language while riding a unicycle on an ice lake being chased by flying squirrels.

and thats pretty fucking confusing.

 

We're both in college. First year. I was actually the one who brought up the fight in our discussion yesterday, I was the one who proposed the break and initiated it.

 

if she don't like your jokes then its all over bro, mine gives me pity giggles depending on how corny my joke is at the time.

 

its just cause the whole soon to be fire fighter thing, i guess it gets me brownie points and dismisses my shitty jokes.

 

She says I just don't know when to stop telling em...

 

My step dad and I don't get along but the best advice he ever gave was "relationships have two outcomes you break up or get married so when you see signs of a break up suck it up and move on."

99.999999% of relationships which start during or before your freshman year of college do not work out, no ones fault but you're both getting to know yourselves and so many other people along with deciding what is important to you and your life. Before that when you start a relationship you know what you enjoy but as you grow through college you begin to see what life is going to require to be successful not "enjoyable" and it changes people. Long story short its over, at least for now. If she is who you're supposed to be with and you both really "love" each other you'll walk away from it without dragging it out and making it worse on both of you and if shes the one for you after a few years of you both dating other people and growing as people you'll end up talking again and the relationship will be that much stronger because you had time to see what was important.

For now just move on and don't make finding someone a priority focus on being successful the girl will happen if you just live your life, and you'll find her somewhere you would never expect and you'll have more in common that way because you're trying to live life not find love.

 

Couldn't have worded this any better! If you cling too much you're going to overwhelm her more than she already feels with school stuff. Couples need space especially in college. Being "tied down" in a relationship can also make you feel like you're missing out on your college experience and adds to the stress. Give her a lot of space. Go days without seeing her, couples don't need to see each other every single day. AND have guy's nights out. While you're out with the guys don't text her. You don't need to talk to your gf/bf every single minute of the day, otherwise you get bored/annoyed with each other. If she's really into the relationship then she'll come back. Other than that I think the college and sorority life is making her want to experience the single life.

 

Thing is we don't text or call each other all day long. When I am hanging with my guys or her with her girls, we don't text till after we're done. I see her in class twice a week, and like one more day during the week, and that's it. I am hoping not talking to her or seeing her at all during this week break will make her come back and realize she wants to be with me still.

 

its them californian girls bro, gotta find you a good southern girl.

 

Actually now she sounds like a B word. BUT people change a lot over time... maybe she has changed and no longer feels there's chemistry... girls suck

 

She says if it doesn't work she still wants me in her life because apparently I am an amazing guy.

I don't know how long it will take me to be just a friend with her and be okay with it.

 

I would look at this situation as she gave you the key to freedom! My advice, do a lot of cool shit to your truck, after that pick up hot chicks in your newly remodeled truck, and transform yourself into the largest man-whore you could ever imagine!!!!

 

Well she said she wants to be friends afterwards and not end it on a bad note... I def don't wanna be a backup, because that means that she doesn't really like me, she just wants a bf until she finds someone else.,

 

Contemplating this...

 

I understand this is your first girlfriend...but... THIS IS YOUR FIRST GIRLFRIEND. The stuff she's pulling just seems sketchy and really I think you shouldn't have expectations for her to come back because if she doesn't then you're going to let yourself down even more. Go on with life and have fun, meet people do whatever you can to distract yourself. If/when she comes back then you can go from there. If she doesn't then you have the freedom to date other girls... maybe someone that won't tell you your jokes suck and that you annoy her.

HEY HEY none of that. I'm offended lol

 

What do you mean by sketchy? What do you think is up?

 

I'm sorry but those are major FRIEND ZONING words. Trust me I'm a girl lol

 

From what it sounds like... She's hiding something, or just doesn't want to be with you.. And is using this as a start to a complete break up.. I say, on to the next one.

GLWGF

 

I think she wants to experience other people... but keep you around in case she needs someone to go to.

 

Thats exactly how I see it as well. She wants you to be the backup plan. I bet you $100 if you had a new girlfriend she would be trying to get back with you in a second.
sounds like she either cheated or is interested in someone else