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Sobriety.... One year later... Please Read.

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by RearViewMirror, Oct 2, 2013.

  1. floodedkiwi

    floodedkiwi Well-Known Member

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    great to hear. all is good on this side as well....
     
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    I feel you brother. I'm 27 and have basically been drinking everyday since the age of 16-18. Like alot of others I come from a whole family of functional alcoholics. None of us have really ever had a problem with work or the law. I've known since childhood I was a alcoholic but frankly can't stand AA although I'm gonna give it another shot soon. My grandfather was a long time sponsor actually. It sucks because honestly I find it easier to quit smoking cigarettes then alcohol.
     
  3. RearViewMirror

    RearViewMirror [OP] Saw things so much clearer once you... were in my

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    Alcoholism = The only disease you can get yelled at for having.


    As stated in my first post I never really had a issue with alcohol / drugs until the floodgates opened with that one run. That is no excuse or a get out of jail free card though. I should have handled it in a much better way but I didn't. I too have alcoholism in my family but.... to put it bluntly, you can not use that as a crutch. I agree that genetics play a role in whether you are more predisposed to become dependent on alcohol but it is also a choice. I chose poorly.

    If you truly want to quit you will find a way. If not... the way will be found for you. I don't mean that to sound harsh but surviving what I went though gives me a new perspective on the way things work. You may be a functioning alcoholic (I was) but eventually that will play out.

    I tend to agree with you on AA. I think AA is a very good program. Great in fact. I would highly recommend it to anyone that is struggling. That said, it wasn't for me. I could get to the first step but that was it. In the end... it comes down to how much you want to quit. It is a life changing event and I will not lie and say that it is easy. But... once you get over the hump it no longer controls your life.

    I hope you can get to that point.
     
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    I want to thank you for posting this, takes a lot of courage to talk openlydifficulties you are working through. Thankfully, I've never had a drinkingproblem, but I do have thoughts from deployments that creep up. My biggest helphas been, and always will be, my wife. Her and my son keep me grounded and onthe right track. Very inspirational, thanks again for posting.
     
  5. RearViewMirror

    RearViewMirror [OP] Saw things so much clearer once you... were in my

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    Thank you :)
     
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    PTSD, TBI, alcohol/substance abuse....5 years as of 7/23/14. That was one of the big combat anniversary dates for me. This year my 2nd child, a son (I have a daughter already) was also born on 7/23/14 making a very bad day a wonderful day :)
     
  7. RearViewMirror

    RearViewMirror [OP] Saw things so much clearer once you... were in my

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    That's great brother!:)
     
  8. Andrew H

    Andrew H What is this "search" you speak of?

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    respect.
     
  9. Dunckel

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    I also have PTSD. Long story short, I was in pursuit of a stolen car. The suspect stopped his car and tried to take my head off with an AR15 from about 15 feet away. He fired 20 rounds at me. I shot him back. He's dead now. That incident, coupled with the others like RearView mentioned that can't be un-seen can really take a toll after a while.

    The shooting was August 3rd, 2011. I knew I was in trouble when I started turning to alcohol just to be able to relax. When I wake up in the morning and the first thing I think about was having a glass of tequila, I knew something was wrong. August 3rd of this year was the night I had my last drink. I've decided to quit. So far so good.

    RearView, if you ever need to talk about anything, feel free to PM me. I've been there.

    Dunckel
     
  10. RearViewMirror

    RearViewMirror [OP] Saw things so much clearer once you... were in my

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    That's great brother. I'm coming up on my 2 year anniversary. Same goes with you my friend. If you ever need to talk I'm always here.
     
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    moondeath Plenty of slaves for my robot colony?

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    That type of work would be tough. I don't think I could sleep at night after seeing things like that.

    Props to your sobriety!
     
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    awesome man thats AWESOME
     
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    oh forgot WWOOOOOO PIIIGGGGG SSOOOOOOOOIIIIIEEEE
     
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    RearViewMirror [OP] Saw things so much clearer once you... were in my

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    Thanks guys!

    And here's to hoping with the Razorbacks!!
     
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    Dude! RearViewMirror! Whens your anniversary..? I just came across this thread by mistake and my 3 years is Sunday Oct 5! I love how this program works. I dont even know you but I felt your story. Language of the heart. Ive also been in the med field for 8 years and have seen alot as well as a grip of personal battles and issues. Truly inspired the most by guys like you as well as anyone else willing to seek out a higher power through adversity and a different design for livin! Much love!
     
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    RearViewMirror [OP] Saw things so much clearer once you... were in my

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    I just realized this thread is one year old yesterday.

    I don't know if I've stated in the past or not. But the reason I keep the PTSD / Sobriety Thread linked in my signature is for me. Not for anyone else. I have to stare at that link every time I post something here. That's not to say that I don't want anyone clicking on the link and hopefully helping someone in the process. I do. But the original intent was to make me think about it every time I post.

    What I've learned in the last year since posting this thread:

    First... The amount of responses have been overwhelming. You men / women have been a great support for me and have given me a outlet. I know now that I'm not the only one with demons that haunt you.

    I've learned to live one day at a time and enjoy each day that I'm allowed to remain on this earth.

    I've learned that the further you get from "your" own personal rock bottom, the more perspective you gain from how you got there in the first place. I'm not remotely the same person I was before. It was / is truly a life changing event that required a lot of persistence and help from friends and family.

    And most importantly... I've learned that I had to ask for help. Which to me was a huge hurdle to jump. I have made it to where I am personally accountable to everyone I know.

    I wish none of this would have ever happened. I'm embarrassed, ashamed, and the guilt I feel will never go away. But on the other hand, it did happen, and I'm glad it did. It has made me a better person in the long run. And for that I'm thankful.

    So, thank all of you for all the responses / PM's over the last year. It is truly a testament as to how good this community is. On a truck forum no less.

    In all sincerity, Thank you!
     
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    Thank you for posting this RearviewMirror! I too have recently decided to quit after 6 years, which started off as one or two drinks a week and turned into drinking one or two a night after work. For me, I had lost my job earlier this year, and started using it to "self-medicate" from the frustration. Then when I found a job (actually 2), I was working every day and using that as an excuse.

    I know I have not been clean as long as most of your folks (it sounds like), but this thread is inspiring to me. I hope to continue on a sober lifestyle.
     
  18. RearViewMirror

    RearViewMirror [OP] Saw things so much clearer once you... were in my

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    Good for you. That is my hope for you also. It is a day to day process but as time goes on it gets much easier I promise.
     
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    You know, the hardest thing for people to do is own up to their actions, everyone faces that fear. For you to have faced that fear, overcome it, and then let others know about it, not for praise or pride, but for the offer of help to another person, takes much more of a man than you would think. I'm glad that you have overcome your issues and have, more than likely, helped many others in one way or another. Im glad you found your road to recovery and are still on it.
     
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    My mother just commited suicide because of her alcohol addiction. We never thought it was that bad. I remember seeing this thread a few months back. I wish I made her read it as it could have helped. Who knows though. If you know a loved one is struggling, try your best to help them. No one should have to go through this.
     
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