Thinking about dropping out...

start modding your truck out to keep your mind of her

 

With what money?

 

lol damn! sorry bud

 

maybe we can start a new thread... something like: "donatemoneytoderekformodssohecangethismindoffcardboard" ?

 

Canadian!!!

 

i agree. i'm not into playing games but one thing i can say from experience is if you start moving on, and she see's that. she'll come running back. i have been dumped multiple times, but i have never been dumped and the girl not try to get back together with me. but they want me back after its too late and i've moved on. if you act like you want her back she wont want you. i know i sound like every date movie cliche but its true

 

for once i am actually trying not to be a dick. so don't take this the wrong way, but i predict this ending in disaster. here's teh scenario. you want her back. she is unsure. you hang out a few times. you have a great time. you think this means she likes you. you pressure her. she says she doesn't want to get back together. you get frustrated and mad and things go downhill. i've seen it (and been through it) many times. this is never a good idea unless you do it a year or so after the break up

 

Derek, I didn't read all the posts on here, but I was in your situation at the beginning of this year. The Air Force has always been something I wanted to do, so I went to enlist without telling anyone, as I saw it as a way of escape. Due to reasons, I wasn't able to join for six months, and that waiting period is now over. Looking back, I'm not the same person I was then, so don't use the military as a way of escape. I still want to do the Reserves, but I am glad I didn't rush into such a big commitment due to reasons other than me serving my country. Hope everything settles down for you soon!

 

I was thinking we'd hang out a few times, then I'd slowly start to fade away, hoping she'll come back.

 

Good to hear you're feeling better, and that you and your girlfriend (ex?) are ending on a good note, but are you ending? I guess you need to take it easy, and not revolve your life around her. Give her space, and time will tell. I just hate the limbo phase. Are you just friends, or are you dating? Nobody really knows.

"Time to find herself" means she needs space. The relationship has gotten to a point where you're tobether so much that she does'nt know her own identity anymore. That's not necessarily a good or bad thing. It just means that when you're apart, you don't know what to do with yourself. Give her some space, and she'll find whether her place in life is with you or not.

Show her you won't die without her. As the old cliche goes, "Let her go. If she comes back, she's yours. If she doesn't she never was.

I'm also glad to hear your looking at other college options. Whatevery you do, don't quit. It'll be good in the long run. Don't just think for the moment. Anything worth working for is not easy. By the way, what is your major?

 

sorry to hear you and your gf broke up derek.
keep ur head up high.

 

Yeah, completely agree.

I know, more money for college... But it's for a better good.

X2.

Derek, get a good education!

 

I can't believe I'm gonna agree with ND..... But I think I have to. I can't tell you the walking away, ignoring her, making her come to you bit works because I haven't tried it. However, I'm fairly certain busting your balls to try to keep her will only push her away. I was engaged for 5 years before splitting up. She tried to get back with me and the more she pushed the more I wanted to run. Although, she'd yell, fight, cry, block the door, shit like that instead of talking, changing the things that pissed me off, or doing fun stuff together. I can also see my wife struggling to run away when ever I try something. I try to do fun, non-committal things that friends would do, but after a year she still wants to leave. Part of that may be that we're stuck together as we can't afford to live separately and as such never get a break from each other.

 

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sounds shady to me...

 

Derek, I read all the posts and wish you the best ...you two always looked like you were having fun & hope you can get that back. Live life for you ... visit your grandpa and get in some east snowboarding...the season will be here soon, maybe over your winter break. Take care, Judy

 

Thanks Judy.

 

I would at least finish out this semester and then see what your mindset. College may be your thing by then or you might still want to get away and do something different, the recruiters will always be waiting, just don't get yourself in any trouble.

I was in about the same situation 4 years ago. I had 2 years of college in and had no idea what the hell I was doing. I would change my major once or twice a semester and eventually just stopped going to class all together. Said screw it and joined the Air Force.
I wasn't going to stay at home working a minimum wage job and waste away, I was going to get out on my own and do something.

College wasn't my thing back then but it is now. I knocked out my Associates, mostly through training the Air Force gave me anyway, working on my Bachelors and hoping to get to my Masters in a few years...all on the military's dime. If money for college is an issue, the GI Bill will take care of you when you get out of the military and Tuition Assistance will pay for your classes while you're in the service.

 

hi derek. definitely stay in college no matter what. it will help you out no matter what happens. as for the girl i hope it works out for the best.