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Thread for the Dumped

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by c0b2a, Oct 5, 2008.

  1. Oct 5, 2008 at 12:16 PM
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    c0b2a

    c0b2a [OP] Well-Known Member

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    Yesterday my gf and I broke up.. after 14 months. We had been arguing about stuff for the last month and its been shitty, finally she told me she doesn't feel the same about me anymore. She wasn't even the same girl I fell in love with, it really was like she changed over night. I was planning on marrying this girl after some Military training I have coming up was over. We had talked about it for a long time.
    How does a person go from telling someone you love them and want to spend your life with them 1 day, to I do not want a relationship right now. I want to be single. I have to look out for me.

    Seriously fucking bullshit. I put everything I was into that relationship. My time, my money, my love.

    sorry to go all emo on you all, just need a place to vent.
     
  2. Oct 5, 2008 at 12:22 PM
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    HerNameIsLucy

    HerNameIsLucy I miss Lucy. :-(

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    RIP Lucy.
    She's gone but not forgotten.
    I'm sure we've all been through it at one time or another. I was recently "dumped" by a woman who accused me of spying on her though her computer!

    I went with Janster's advice...better off we find out now than after getting too serious.

    And I got me a new girlfriend. That helped a lot. Not that I want to hurt the last one but I do get a grin out of knowing she's now a tad jealous.
     
  3. Oct 5, 2008 at 12:25 PM
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    best way to get over one woman is to get on top of another:D sorry to hear that, it gets better with time. hang in there
     
  4. Oct 5, 2008 at 12:30 PM
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    I know the feeling... when i first got out of the navy i met this girl and we were together for 36 months, we had everything in common, never spent a day without seeing each other

    We had talked about getting married and all that bs.. Well one day i said fvck it and asked her to marry me, and she said no , and the next day she broke off the relationship and said she didnt love me anymore..

    Funny part of it all is now ive been married now for 21 years and been with her for 24 ( different lady ).. And i see the x here and there and the first thing she always says is ... What if :D
     
  5. Oct 5, 2008 at 1:16 PM
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    tacomaman06

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    were all here for ya man.......and i guarantee we all have been thru the same situation as you are experiencing now!! it sure as hell aint fun, but if you look into it a bit, its one of life's good roadblocks for you to overcome!! try not to be too down man......it doesnt help at all,and im speaking from experience. you will meet someone else, and you will totally be happy that you and the other girl didnt end up together. like i said...were all here for ya man!
     
  6. Oct 5, 2008 at 1:28 PM
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    Dude, you're only 22 y.o., and still a "baby". No need to start thinking about marriage and all that, you've have plenty of time for that. There are plenty of other fish in the ocean as they say, one day she'll smack you upside the head and you'll know you've found the right one.
     
  7. Oct 5, 2008 at 2:08 PM
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    Man sorry to hear about that but in the long run you are way better off. I know I have broken up with girls in the past and I thought life was never going to be the same but now that I have my wife I could never imagine myself with anyone else. Time heals everything well except for herpes so be careful! JK
     
  8. Oct 5, 2008 at 4:28 PM
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    swatjoe592 Beware the Puma...

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    I know there are a few women on the board, and I would like to make the disclaimer that the following is a controversial, ancient healing technique I picked up in college. I have since grown, gotten married, been re-educated, and I would never partake in this type of demeaning behavior towards women. ;)

    I'm no relationship doctor, but sounds like you need to go rustle up some dirty leg. Nothing long-term, just some filthy skank to violate. I can't speak for everyone, but it's been my experience that nothing raises a man's spirits quite like a woman's face in his lap.

    First things first though....stand up brother! Delete your first post immediately! Replace it with how glad you are to be free and on the market. Rant on and on about how you were on the verge of dumping this chick because she was a flaming psychopathic bipolar bitch, she just did you a favor. Just for effect, throw in a few comments about her being lousy in bed. If she manages to catch wind that you're all busted up inside, that will only make her more satisfied by knowing that she is prolonging your misery. Bitches thrive on that kind of shit. This CANNOT happen!

    Last thing...Do NOT, under ANY circumstances allow this woman back (unless of course it is for one more roll in the sheets at which time it is acceptable, only to kick her ass out when YOU'RE done) I have a short list of rules to live by and #4 is don't get dumped by the same chick twice in one lifetime.
     
  9. Oct 5, 2008 at 4:30 PM
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    JimBeam BECAUSE INTERNETS!! Moderator

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  10. Oct 5, 2008 at 4:42 PM
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    Haha, that gave me a good laugh, yeah there will be no getting back together for us, hell no. I honestly do realize now that she was really not the one for me.. not to sound egotistical, but looking back on everything she isn't good enough for me.. Yeah she was really hot and had a great sense of humor... but talk about a lack of IQ on the important stuff, and lack of drive, not to mention she was absolutely terrible at following through with shit. Anyway thanks for all the support, the words of wisdom from you all have helped.
     
  11. Oct 5, 2008 at 4:52 PM
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    swatjoe592 Beware the Puma...

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    thats the shit i'm talking about right there man!! +1!!
     
  12. Oct 5, 2008 at 4:56 PM
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    HerNameIsLucy I miss Lucy. :-(

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    She's gone but not forgotten.
    there ya got it! :D
     
  13. Oct 5, 2008 at 5:36 PM
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    Gees Joe youre too frikkin NICE :puke: quit with the sappy love stuff ok?:D

    LOL take Joe's advice-may I add-if you have the stuff for it, his is a good way to HEAL this shit quicker.
     
  14. Oct 5, 2008 at 6:38 PM
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    before i moved to sacramento my relationship with my boyfriend was awesome but now that we live an hour and a half from each other things have been getting worse, since its not working out that great long distance should i just give up?
     
  15. Oct 5, 2008 at 6:49 PM
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    HerNameIsLucy

    HerNameIsLucy I miss Lucy. :-(

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    She's gone but not forgotten.
    I wouldn't give it up just because of the hour and a half drive, go early on a Saturday morning, leave late on a Sunday night you've still got the entire weekend.

    Now if you can't (or won't) trust him because he's far away enough to do things you wouldn't know about (not saying he would here) that's a different story.
     
  16. Oct 5, 2008 at 6:55 PM
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    trust isn't our issue at all. and i can't always go home on the weekends and he can't always come up here so when we are apart for awhile it seems like all we do is fight. and the fact that he absolutely hates talking on the phone doesn't help either. everybody told me that long distance relationships dont work..even when its just a little over an hour away..so i'm determined to prove them wrong but i don't know if i should keep trying or not
     
  17. Oct 5, 2008 at 7:03 PM
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    HerNameIsLucy I miss Lucy. :-(

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    There's gotta be something besides just the distance that's causing all the fighting. Maybe talk to him and ask him for a honest answer.

    When I've found myself in this situation, several times we both knew what the real problems was, but neither of us wanted to say it out loud. Just got worse and worse.
     
  18. Oct 5, 2008 at 7:08 PM
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    i've asked him many times to tell me the truth about how he feels but he always tells me that he still loves me and wants to be with me and blah blah blah...the thing that is so frustrating is when we are together, we are both really happy and we don't fight at all but as soon as we are apart for a couple days we just get pissed at each other over everything!
     
  19. Oct 5, 2008 at 8:10 PM
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    I've only had one long distance relationship before just for that fact. It was too hard having her an hour away with gas prices the way they were, the crappy pay from the job I had at the time, and someone just a couple miles away trying to get me in bed.

    Hell, even now my wife went to Florida for the weekend to visit some friends and I was pissed most of the weekend. (Mainly because we don't have money to spare, and she could've waited a couple weeks for my new job to give us the extra cash for it....) Talking to her on the phone helped calm me down a bit this afternoon, but it just showed how much it affected me not having her around.

    If you and your bf do everything together, think alike, have the same sense of humor, etc, it could just be that part of you is missing. My wife and I are like that. She's the only one that really understands me, my sense of humor, and twisted thoughts. So when she's not around, what do I do? No one else really understands me. If that's the same thing with you, that could account for the anger. And if he won't talk on the phone, then that doesn't help.
     
  20. Oct 5, 2008 at 8:21 PM
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    yeah i think the problem is that back home we were together all the time and did everything together unless i was at school or he was at work. i think its been hard for the both of us to not see each other every day..its even been hard for me to go to bed alone. when it comes down to it, i do feel like a part of me is missing, and right now i couldn't imagine not having him in my life. i know i'm only 17 and i have a lot of growing up to do but i don't care.
     
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