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Well looks like it's over

Discussion in 'Prayers & Support' started by thebigk, Feb 7, 2009.

  1. Feb 7, 2009 at 3:40 PM
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    thebigk

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    Been married 12 yrs, 9 months & 7 days...........but looks like that's it.


    We haven't been getting along for a while.......a few months I guess. She's been the biggest bitch I have ever seen in that time. I quit telling her I love her, have had sex maybe 3 times in 2 months. I pretty much quit having anything to do with her.

    Today we went grocery shopping and she noticed my shoe was untied on the way in. I popped off with one of my comedic acts and said....well if you noticed it why didn't you just go ahead and tie it. :D My son chuckled and I kind of snickered (I crack these little gems alot so it's not like it's anything new) and she goes off :eek:
    I told her hey..I'm just playing.....and she continues to bitch at me all the way into the store. I ignore her the rest of the time in WalMart, I don't empty the cart at the checout like I usually do, I got in the Nitro without loading the groceries, we came home & I didn't unload the groceries.

    No talking at all the whole time in the store or when we get home.

    I finally get the nerve to ask about lunch. WOOPS! Big mistake. She goes off again.

    I finally tell her....have you not fucking noticed how I don't call you, tell you I love you, have sex with you, or have anything to do with you and that I want a divorce!

    She snapped. I told her I hadn't been in love with her in a while and this was the last argument my son would see between us.

    She started accusing me of sleeping around (I don't) and all kinds of crap.

    Well to make a looooooonnnnngggg story short, she pretty much packed up 90% of everyhting she owns & left. I told her to pull $1500 out of the checking for now and we would work on splitting up the assets later.

    I'm sad....but feel this sensation of relief! I could not take her 1 more day.

    My 9yr old son is pretty upset but not mad at either one of us so that's a good thing.

    Just trying to figure out where to go from here.......we lived together before we married so I ain't been single in 14yrs :eek:

    Ok I'm done ranting.....I need a beer:eek:
     
  2. Feb 7, 2009 at 3:44 PM
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    chris4x4

    chris4x4 With sufficient thrust, pigs fly just fine. Moderator

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    Sorry to hear, Buddy. :(
     
  3. Feb 7, 2009 at 3:49 PM
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    DanGer

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    definitely sorry to hear! once your ready to open up your options use the taco to pick up some ladies! haha jk best of luck to you and i'll crack open a longdistance beer with ya tonight
     
  4. Feb 7, 2009 at 4:10 PM
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    hoosiertaco

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    I wish I could help........so sorry for the pain:(
     
  5. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:20 PM
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    oldtacomaguy

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    Sorry to hear this man. I really don't know what to say except I hope things work out for the best, whatever direction you decide to go.
     
  6. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:34 PM
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    Don G

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    A sad, sad story indeed. There are no winners in this story! ! Especially your son. God bless you all!!
     
  7. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:37 PM
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    paintdiddy

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    kill her, bury her in the yard and tell your son she ran away.....only kidding...i think. sucks man.your not alone and some of us feel your pain. maybe things will work out for the best.
     
  8. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:42 PM
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    RoyB

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    sorry to hear man, thats a long time. have you guys talked about this before? maybe just a misunderstanding that has built up over time?
     
  9. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:42 PM
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    sorry to hear that big. me and my girl split a few months ago. i guess i shouldn't have told her f you and fuck off, she's still not over it. :rofl: Women you can't live without them and you can't kill em
     
  10. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:43 PM
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    :( Sorry to hear man.... life's too short to be miserable though. Hope all goes as well as these things possibly could.
     
  11. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:46 PM
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    sorry to hear man.
     
  12. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:51 PM
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    I will say "that sucks" because no one wins in a situation like that, but I will say good for you, because life's too short to be so miserable, regardless of the situation. Keep your stick on the ice.
     
  13. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:55 PM
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    HighPlains

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    Sorry to hear man. Sometimes, I think I am somewhere in between myself....it's just that she has such a good job and a nice ass. I need her more than she needs me. I'm screwed if she figures it out.
     
  14. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:57 PM
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    sorry to hear about this big. i hope everything works out for ya
     
  15. Feb 7, 2009 at 5:59 PM
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    I'm really sorry bigK,I hope you're able to work through this as painlessly as possible.....I was 8 when my folks packed it in and if I may offer any advice it's this:

    No matter how upset you get with your wife remember she's the most important woman in your boys life.If you're able to remain civil,calm and respectful whatever comes down....He will remember it and appreciate it always.

    All the best my man.
     
  16. Feb 7, 2009 at 6:00 PM
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    Sorry to hear that :( I'll keep yall in my prayers, hope everything works out!
     
  17. Feb 15, 2009 at 7:24 PM
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    thebigk

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    Well it's been a week.
    We've talked ALOT. She actually came by for a few hours earlier.
    I don't know what the future holds for us but it has been an eye opener for us both. Maybe some time apart is what we needed. Neither of us has mentioned getting back together.....just talking more than we ever have. Pretty weird LOL

    I ain't gonna complain though. Together or apart from here on out......I think we'll get along ALOT better.
     
  18. Feb 15, 2009 at 7:27 PM
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    at least youre getting along!
     
  19. Feb 15, 2009 at 7:32 PM
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    tacomaman06

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    sorry to hear man. if it all works out.....great, if not....ya'll both know it wasnt meant to be, and it makes things alot easier. good luck to ya man!
     
  20. Feb 15, 2009 at 7:33 PM
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    Just my .02 cents.
    Try to make it work, for your son. Don't put him through a break up unless there is danger to him, you or your wife. He doesn't care what your problems are, he just loves his mom and dad.
     
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