what to do?

Hey all, I know variations of this question have been asked before, so I apologize for this. Looking at getting either Falcon Wild Peaks or BFG ATKO2. My difficulty is that I don't want the hard ride of the E load rating. Right now I don't want to drastically change tire size, just because of having to know how fast I'm actually going and such. I'm looking at a few possibilities.

Wild Peak A/T3W 245/75/16 in P rating

Wild Peak A/T3W 245/75/16 in E rating, knowing it's going to be stiff

BFG AT KO2 in 245/75/16 in E rating, knowing it's going to be stiff

BFG AT KO2 in 245/70/16 in D rating. kind of in between the other 2, but having to size down the tire about 3%

I do about 80% pavement driving 10% on maintained gravel road and the last 10% are on low maintenance roads and old mining roads with some decent size sharp chunks from blasting in the past. Most of the time I don't need the heavier sidewalls, but that 10% has me wanting them for more protection.

Any recommendations on how to figure this out?