Am I wrong??

i was thinkin the same thing. the whole time i read the post i kept thinkin... shes seein someone else.

 

My question is how long were you divorced before becoming obsessed and clingy with girl #1? She should be the rebound and the cousin should be the closer. I think girl #1 brought her cousin to push you towards someone else. Or a threeway.

 

This girl knows what she is talking about. It sounds like a lot of grief to me, I wouldn't go there. Your so called girlfriend is basically telling you she is not interested, or has met someone else, or has cheated on you and feels guilty about it and wants you to finish things with her. Her girlfriend doesn't have any morales by agreeing to go out with you either, any girl who has
decent ethics would not not go out with one of their girlfriends x boyfriends.
I recently separated from my wife some time ago and needed some time to myself afterwards to reflect on what went wrong. I have a new girlfriend now and I am happy. Give it time and don't waste your time with girls that you can't see a future with. Good luck.

 

Damn...this thread got legs!! LOL

Well......I made a date for next weekend. I got my kiddo this weekend.

10 days.....I'm going to see what happens in 10 days......

But yeah.....after 3 weeks of no sex......I am kind of thinking with my dick! Longest dry spell IN MY LIFE!!! LOL

I know one thing....without a doubt....I don't want to get serious again. My GF was something I didn't think ever happened in real life. Kind of a love at first sight thing for both of us. We went to Cancun together, concerts, Christmas shopped together...maybe we got along too good?

My take on this is......don't say I need a "couple of days" and turn it into over 3 weeks! That's not how you treat someone you supposedly "love".

She's always wanting to hook a nice guy up with her cousin.....her cousin is a GREAT chick and any guy would be lucky to have her. And her cousin thinks I'm a great guy.....apparently my GF has told her ALOT. (Yeah...I'm this great fucking guy....but the GF puts my ass on a string!) I even heard how good I was in bed LOL....that kinda shocked the shit out of me and I'm not easily flustered!

So I apprecaite the advice from all. I'm going to just hang out for 10 days......talk to the cousin for a while.....see what happens.

As for my GF......I ain't gonna lie....she's hot...self-reliant....and smart! But I can only put up with Bullshit for so long.

 

Well, this is going to get interesting!

 

well, if cousin is a keeper, this might be a great idea! You'd tell your kids about it one day! BUT if not, then you've got a shitshow on your hands.. Whichever it'll be.. it'll be fun..!

 

In my opinion you are already screwed with your gf even if she wanted to work things out. Not to be a complete downer but what if your gf is in on it as well? I only say this because it has happened to me. If this isnt the situation, even if you back out now and she finds out you asked out her best friend/cousin you are screwed. So in my opinion you can write the gf off completely. I am young, but I have learned when a girl says to not wait, it is a kind way of breaking up with you. So I say go for the cousin and have fun, but dont expect anything serious, and be ready for a whole lot of drama. And be careful that the GF isnt in on it. When I say that I mean telling her cousin to agree then trying to fuck you over somehow.

 

If a girl says "I love you still" but wants/needs time to think, then she is already talking too/interested in/seeing someone else. I agree with everyone else, she is trying to get you to break it off with her so she doesn't feel guilty for doing it.

As for the cousin, you can bet your ass the cousin was telling your gf everything you and her talked about and that you asked her out. She agreed to go on a date or what ever so fast because most likely your gf and her had a plan to set you up with the cousin in the first place, to allow the gf an escape. Girls don't say yes to a guy that has been seeing their relative or best friend that quick unless something was up.

I say talk to the cousin as if nothing is wrong and blow off the gf. If drama gets started, leave them both.

 

I cant agree more.

 

thats a tough one dude. i read your entire post but i read it fast so i may have missed this, but how does your gf/ex gf feel about it? i know she wants you to move on but is she ok with you dating her cousin? i hate to say it but it sounds like your gf wants to break up she just doesn't want to be the bad guy. i've dealt with that before. it sucks

 

x2

 

I'd say watch several old episodes of Two and a Half Men and then do what you think Charlie would do in a similar situation. Keep kissing that old GF at every opportunity, date her cousin and at the same time try to pick up every hot chick you see at the supermarket, funerals, weddings, bars, etc.

 

Your 'Best Friend' is a moron if she goes otu with you. On a guy stand point go for it!!

 

have fun with the cousin .

 

I still believe my original comment... I think neither one of these girls is going to be the last one you're with... so have fun until the drama starts then move on.

Also.. still waiting on pics of all parties involved.

 

Well.....today.....the GF and I decided to call it quits.

She swears she isn't seeing anyone.....she said her life is too busy with her career, kids and family and that's why she took the time away from me. She doesn't have time for anyone.

And I have to admit....she's a single mom....2 small girls in everything from soccer to dancing.....a DEMANDING job.....and a huge family that's always needing her for something.

That was one of our problems....I got pissed because there was never enough time for us to do all the things we wanted with all her committments.

We talked today....and I said if you haven't changed your mind in the last 3 1/2 weeks about me you're not going to. And I don't need to be put on this damn string waiting anymore.

She finally said it was over. I thought I would take it easier than I did....after all 3 1/2 weeks with hardly any contact....no sex..etc.
But man it has hit me pretty hard. I guess knowing it's over and hearing it's over are two different things. Am I going to miss her? Fuck yes. Am I going to be heartbroken for a while? BAD

But I believe you don't dwell on the past....you pick up the pieces and you move forward.

Well I texted her cousin and said well.....we ended it. And she said she was sorry to hear it....but she said she saw the writing on the wall.

Me and her are going to lunch tomorrow and still have our date next weekend....and have agreed to hang out....see where it goes....no guarantees at all.

My (now ex)GF always swears by "things happen for a reason"......I don't know.....I just don't know

 

34 going on 17?

 

Sorry to hear it man. Ya being a single mom is a hard job, and she really has to be there for her kids. So the thing I can say is go have fun with her cousin and dont talk about your problems with the relationships.

 

LOL
There's pics of the now ex GF in the travel section under my Cancun trip thread.
http://www.tacomaworld.com/forum/travel/57559-cancun-baby.html

 

Sucks about it officially being over, but it sounds like she's got a lot going on... and you can't blame her for putting her two daughters first in her life. I wish you the best.