1. Welcome to Tacoma World!

    You are currently viewing as a guest! To get full-access, you need to register for a FREE account.

    As a registered member, you’ll be able to:
    • Participate in all Tacoma discussion topics
    • Communicate privately with other Tacoma owners from around the world
    • Post your own photos in our Members Gallery
    • Access all special features of the site

Marriage???

Discussion in 'Military' started by 1990wade, May 19, 2011.

  1. May 19, 2011 at 10:49 PM
    #1
    1990wade

    1990wade [OP] BASS FISHING

    Joined:
    May 2, 2010
    Member:
    #36425
    Messages:
    124
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Wade
    Danville, Georgia
    Vehicle:
    05 TACO TRD OR PRERUNNER
    Ok i have been with the same girl for 4 years now, and we havnt gotten pretty serious about gettin married..well i leave for basic training in august, and i have told that if we can make it through my basic and "A" school we are gonna get married.. I just wanna know if anybody else went through this same thing or just gettin married while in the military..My dad says i will meet other girls lol, but i just ignore him..any help plzzzz!!!
     
  2. May 19, 2011 at 10:56 PM
    #2
    GSD

    GSD Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jan 9, 2011
    Member:
    #49007
    Messages:
    718
    Gender:
    Male
    Saskatoon SK
    Vehicle:
    09 TRD SPORT
    Nitto terra grapplers,raider cap with thule tracker two roof system, 13 inch rubber antenna, wire harness mod, seat belt chime mod
    Your 21 I would wait a little.
     
  3. May 19, 2011 at 11:11 PM
    #3
    TacomaBuzz

    TacomaBuzz Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Mar 7, 2010
    Member:
    #32764
    Messages:
    1,159
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Matt
    CT
    Vehicle:
    2014 RegCab 4x4 TX Special Edition
    Sirius, Bugflector,back-rack, stepsides.
    You are plenty old enough, if you think she's really "the one" and you are ready to settle down, go for it!! I got married at 25 and no regrets, I ignored all the naysayers. It is your personal choice and you don't need to sell it to anyone. Good luck to you and your future bride!
     
  4. May 19, 2011 at 11:18 PM
    #4
    ColtsTRD

    ColtsTRD .....

    Joined:
    May 13, 2009
    Member:
    #17177
    Messages:
    17,826
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Scott
    AZ
    Vehicle:
    2005 TRD DCSB
    Fuckin A! :cool:
     
  5. May 19, 2011 at 11:38 PM
    #5
    1990wade

    1990wade [OP] BASS FISHING

    Joined:
    May 2, 2010
    Member:
    #36425
    Messages:
    124
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Wade
    Danville, Georgia
    Vehicle:
    05 TACO TRD OR PRERUNNER
    thanks for the support man..i do think she is the "one"..

    She hasnt did anything to hurt me in these past 4 years i really do love that girl
     
  6. May 20, 2011 at 12:06 AM
    #6
    middiedefense

    middiedefense like a boss

    Joined:
    May 5, 2009
    Member:
    #16813
    Messages:
    294
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Joe
    GA, MD
    Vehicle:
    09 Access Cab. V6, 6spd, sr5, 4x4, OME 3" kit
    OME 3" Complete kit, TRD O/R Wheels (rattle can flat black), Black Badges, Ultra Gauge
    seen alot of dudes get married quick and it just doesnt work, i know youve been together 4 years and thats legit, however the military lifestyle isnt for everyone and you have to let the girl adjust or she may get overwhelmed and bounce on ya. jm2c
     
  7. May 20, 2011 at 3:30 AM
    #7
    SPORT

    SPORT Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 30, 2010
    Member:
    #39641
    Messages:
    273
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Rick
    CA bred, currently living in York, PA
    Vehicle:
    TRD Off Road 4x4 V6
    3" level lift 1.25" Wheel Spacers
    If there's NO doubt in your heart she's the one...
    However, your young. Personally I'd stay single a little longer just to get yourself stablized (more for her than yourself). Besides, there's lots of fish in the sea. ;)

    Thanks for your willingness to serve!!!
     
  8. May 20, 2011 at 3:33 AM
    #8
    T@co_Pr3runn3r

    T@co_Pr3runn3r XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

    Joined:
    Jan 20, 2009
    Member:
    #12767
    Messages:
    11,923
    Gender:
    Male
    <----------------->
    Vehicle:
    08 RC Prerunner SR5
    My advice is to try it out for 10 yrs to make sure you can both handle the long haul with each other. You never know them til you live with them............Thanks in advance for your pending service.
     
  9. May 20, 2011 at 7:12 AM
    #9
    river rat 69

    river rat 69 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Dec 6, 2010
    Member:
    #47249
    Messages:
    16,610
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Jim
    Orlando, Fla., Green side of the grass
    Vehicle:
    007, trd, sr5, fmf.
    NO Chrome,3" NFab's steps,TRD skid,Wet okie's.011 grill, k&n,5100's,All this comes right off when the old lady says let's go get a NEW ONE!!!
    I got the:ballchain:in 1971 forty years this Aug.. She asked me to wait till I got out of USN. Best thing I ever did. If she is the one she will understand if not oh well. Jim
     
  10. May 21, 2011 at 12:33 AM
    #10
    YayAreaTaco0311

    YayAreaTaco0311 Motivator

    Joined:
    Oct 7, 2009
    Member:
    #23946
    Messages:
    705
    Gender:
    Male
    California
    Vehicle:
    '09 TRD 4x4 O/R Supercharged
    OEM TRD supercharger, OEM wheels painted black by me, yellow sidemarkers, arb bumper, LED interiors, roll-n-lock, 5% rear windows, mudflaps removed, protector alarm, mobile trace, blacked out front Toyota emblem, debadged, & tree air freshener.
    Military + marriage = never works out most of the time
     
  11. May 21, 2011 at 12:44 AM
    #11
    tanzak88

    tanzak88 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 3, 2010
    Member:
    #44180
    Messages:
    796
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Tanner
    BC, C-eh-N-eh-D-eh
    Marriage is overrated in my books. The only thing it means, is that she gets half of what you own, and I'm not down with that.
     
  12. Jun 2, 2011 at 1:07 PM
    #12
    shane100700

    shane100700 Look'n like a fool with your pants on the ground..

    Joined:
    Jun 1, 2011
    Member:
    #57578
    Messages:
    291
    Gender:
    Male
    Fort Dix, NJ (MT born and raised)
    Vehicle:
    08 Off Road, DC
    Kenwood 6140 w/nav/BlueTooth/backup cam/ Focal Components/ Alpine PDX-5/ JL 10", rear storage lock mod, tint, Snug Top xtra vision, OEM running boards, XD Spy 18x9, Nitto Terra Gripper AT's, AFE pro dry, Ultra Gauge
    Bullshit- is that like Sex Panther? 60% of the time it works everytime?

    Basic is a good trial (seen other post), if she can deal with the lack of calls (at least that how it was in my day) and you stressed out then she can handle the Army lifestyle. Just remember that you are each others anchor to dealing with a military life. Been with mine for over 10yrs now. It's like anything else, you have to make it work. Just make sure its what you both want and only rush it if you "choose" to. Make sure she understands now though that if the military says work the weekend or work late some night you dont have a choice. If you both feel ready you shouldnt have any problems.

    Good luck!!
     
  13. Jun 2, 2011 at 1:32 PM
    #13
    macgyver

    macgyver Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Aug 14, 2009
    Member:
    #21173
    Messages:
    3,590
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Brad
    Canton, GA
    Vehicle:
    '13 Tundra double cab SR5 4x4
    You're too young. Wait a few years and see how you guys deal with the military lifestyle first. Plus...you don't really "know" someone until you've lived with them.

    I met my last girlfriend at 20 years old, we dated for 4 years. We lived together 3 of those 4 years. I thought she was the one and we planned on getting married. But shit happens. She moved to another state to go to vet school and the long distance didn't work out (Never does). Fortunately there were no hard feelings, we realized things weren't working and things just fizzled out, we're still friends (she's coming in town next week to visit). There are other girls out there for sure. It took me a while to grasp that even after we split. Have my first official date tonight with a new girl. It's hard to think about, but your dad is right. Mine said the same thing to me.
     
  14. Jun 2, 2011 at 1:41 PM
    #14
    cruzr13

    cruzr13 Member

    Joined:
    Jul 18, 2010
    Member:
    #40384
    Messages:
    11
    Gender:
    Male
    VA
    Vehicle:
    '10 MGM Sport DBL Cab 4x4
    Making it through basic and A school is one thing when you can have consistent correspondence with each other, but your first deployment is going to be one of many "tests'" that you will encounter in the military. It's true what some have said about it not working in the military a lot of the time because you spend so much time at work and to top it all off, most of the time you will both be moving to an area that you are unfamiliar with which can also cause stress. Not trying to sound like a downer, just trying to help you make an informed decision. Best of luck.
     
  15. Jun 2, 2011 at 1:42 PM
    #15
    derekabraham

    derekabraham Living vicariously through everybody

    Joined:
    Jul 8, 2008
    Member:
    #7822
    Messages:
    29,052
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    TW'S Hippy Liberal
    Portland, OR
    Vehicle:
    2002 4x4 4Runner
    Stick on hood scoop from Autozone.
    I know SO many kids from my school that got married when they were like 18 or 19, just because they were going into the military. I think it's pretty dumb...



    You're 21 though, so you're a little older, and you guys have been together 4 years. Hopefully you guys can make it through everything. :)
     
  16. Jun 2, 2011 at 8:15 PM
    #16
    Quad D

    Quad D Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    May 26, 2011
    Member:
    #57277
    Messages:
    67
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Quad
    Colorado, from CA, lived in TX, ID, and MT also.
    Vehicle:
    Tacoma stock, dbl cab, 4x4, short bed, SR5
    Good luck to you whatever you decide. I'd suggest joining up first. Military is a complicated lifestyle. I think you need to give it your all or not do it. If she is the one, she'll still be there.
     
  17. Jun 2, 2011 at 8:38 PM
    #17
    TacoAviator

    TacoAviator Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    May 26, 2011
    Member:
    #57279
    Messages:
    46
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    James
    Alabama
    Vehicle:
    07 4.0 Taco
    K&N 77 Series Intake, Doug Thorley Long Tube Headers, Borla Cat-Back, URD MAF Unit, Anzio black headlights, FABTECH 3'' Lift Kit, Halo Rims w/ Nitto Terra Grappler 285/75/17, Westin Nerf Bars and Bull Grill, Grille Craft Grille, WetherTech Wind deflectors, Custom Cup Holder
    Im dual military(my wife is in as well) we have been through 12 months in Iraq and 12 months in Afghanistan together, yet not at the same FOB. Two years without seeing eachother and she just left for her 5th deployment (all 12 months) last FEB. I married her right of the bat when I joined. Best thing Ive ever did in my life. Its hard serving your country and your family at the same time, but don't let her go if shes special. But it can and does work out. Just takes more work on your end. Good Luck!
     
  18. Jul 1, 2011 at 4:12 AM
    #18
    JCorm3319

    JCorm3319 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Oct 31, 2010
    Member:
    #45518
    Messages:
    75
    Gender:
    Male
    First Name:
    Jason
    Holloman AFB, NM
    Vehicle:
    '09 TRD OFF ROAD
    285/75/16 Pro Comp M/T, Spydertrax Wheel Spacers, Bestop Soft Top Canopy 3" Toytec Lift, Anytime Fog Lights, K & N Filter, In Bed Lighting, Rubber Bed Mat, HID Simulators, 60" Hi-Lift Jack
    I was with my girl for almost 2 years when I went to basic. We had lived together before I joined and as I was leaving for tech school I asked her to marry me. We got married almost a year later and have been happily married ever since. I joined the AF at 19 got married at 20 and am 22 now. Age doesn't mean immaturity and only you know what's right for you, not your dad and not anyone else. Since I joined we have spent A LOT of time apart and it sucks (basic 6.5 weeks, tech school 14.5 weeks, 5 months when I first got to my duty station, a 4 month deployment, and currently on a 6 month deployment) Keep in mind that was all in 3 year time frame.

    Good luck with you're decision!
     
To Top