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Marriage

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by Sharpish, Jul 13, 2020.

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Would you get married again knowing what you know now?

  1. Yes

    141 vote(s)
    59.2%
  2. No

    97 vote(s)
    40.8%
  1. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:14 PM
    #1
    Sharpish

    Sharpish [OP] Well-Known Member

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    What a nightmare. 2 years in and I want to flee to Mexico.

    Marriage sucks. Why oh why do people even bother?
     
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  2. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:17 PM
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    AKGSD

    AKGSD Warranty denied

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    Because the Taco isn’t a good lover?


    I suggest you two visit a marriage counselor and see where things went wrong. You liked them enough to get married in the first place, right?
     
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  3. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:21 PM
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    Sharpish

    Sharpish [OP] Well-Known Member

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    Yeah if I was abroad for 6 years I would be happy too lololol
     
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  4. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:22 PM
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    0xDEADBEEF

    0xDEADBEEF Where are we going? Why am I in this handbasket?

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    I dodged a bullet with one lady.


    But being single also sucks.


    If you can work it out, that is the better option. If not, that's just the way it goes sometimes.
     
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  5. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:23 PM
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    T-Rex266

    T-Rex266 Moderator Moderator

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    2 years? How long have things been bad? What solutions have you two tried?
     
  6. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:25 PM
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    joeydurango

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    People get married for all sorts of reasons. People stay married if they get married for the right reasons... and if the people can deal with the inevitable changes in one another. Many people can't do that... my ex-wife, for example.
     
  7. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:25 PM
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    Sharpish

    Sharpish [OP] Well-Known Member

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    I may be dodging a surface to air missile. Being single is wonderful. I could get company if I wished it, otherwise I did what I wanted and enjoyed my own company.
     
  8. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:27 PM
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    Sharpish

    Sharpish [OP] Well-Known Member

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    It’s been good and bad the whole time. We’ve seen a counsellor etc. The usual stuff.
     
  9. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:28 PM
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    0xDEADBEEF

    0xDEADBEEF Where are we going? Why am I in this handbasket?

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    I've been pretty solitary pretty much my whole life, so finding company isn't easy. Thats why being in a relationship did kick ass before it went south. Now that I'm on my own, even I get tired of my dad jokes. :laughing:
     
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  10. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:29 PM
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    BINK05TRD

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    Unofficially/Unhappily married for 24 years :eek:
    This virus shit is taking a toll on everyone.
     
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  11. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:30 PM
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    suaveflooder

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    Been married once. Never again. I have told every girl I have dated since that it’s not something to expect from me. I won’t cheat, won’t step out, and will be 100% devoted. I won’t be getting married though
     
  12. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:30 PM
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    El Duderino

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  13. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:31 PM
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    joeydurango

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    No freaking kidding. So many people I know are just having their worldview broken. Turns out life isn't all kittens and rainbows.
     
  14. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:33 PM
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    suaveflooder

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    Been married once. Never again. I have told every girl I have dated that it’s not something to expect from me. I won’t cheat, won’t step out, and will be 100% devoted. I won’t be getting married again
     
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  15. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:39 PM
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    BINK05TRD

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    You made an attempt with the counseling.
    Any kids ?
     
  16. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:40 PM
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    Sharpish

    Sharpish [OP] Well-Known Member

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    I have a 9 year old son from a previous relationship that I’ve raised on my own since he was 2. Was single (but dating) since then, until I met my wife.
     
  17. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:40 PM
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    AKGSD

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    People get divorced all the time, nothing to feel guilty about. Staying in a toxic relationship is worse for everyone if things can’t change.

    And who knows, maybe you’ll learn a lot about yourself through the pain
     
  18. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:41 PM
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    T4RFTMFW

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    You’re already halfway out the door. Be a decent human and remove yourself the rest of the way.
     
  19. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:42 PM
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    Sharpish

    Sharpish [OP] Well-Known Member

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    Thanks, That was good to hear.
     
  20. Jul 13, 2020 at 8:43 PM
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    Cudgel

    Cudgel “Tonka”

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    27 years, 34 together overall. Money, critically sick kid, elder care and dementia, death (“natural”), sibling’s suicide, cancer...I can’t imagine facing any of it alone.

    Marriage is the one thing in life that if you work hard at it, it pays you back.

    Try again. Two years is still just the warm up.
     
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