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Need Some Guidance/Reassurance

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by 1999TacoMan, Oct 4, 2019.

  1. Oct 9, 2019 at 7:42 AM
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    BuddyS

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    Don't do it. Get out. Half of all marriages fail and your relationships is already a house on fire. Seriously, people don't change. You're never going to trust her (for good reason) and you're going to be in for years of misery until you DO finally get up the courage to leave her or she leaves you. So just cut your losses now. Trust me (and the 100 others on the forum saying the same thing).
     
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  2. Oct 9, 2019 at 7:43 AM
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    dawg , good luck and hope things work out for you but time and time again history repeats itself this Latin phrase comes to mind , dum felis dormit, mus gaudet et exsi litantro ( when the cat's away the mice will play)
     
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  3. Oct 9, 2019 at 7:49 AM
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    Guys, save your thumbs, some lessons need to be learned the hard way
     
  4. Oct 10, 2019 at 8:14 AM
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    Gearheadesw

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    Show her this thread......
     
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  5. Oct 10, 2019 at 2:53 PM
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    Can WE have her phone number? Never mind, is posted in the bar's men's room stall.
    (had to make fun of you to wake up. Your relationship is like buying a Ford. You KNOW that will let you stranded in a ditch)
     
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  6. Oct 10, 2019 at 3:08 PM
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    Plain Jane Taco

    Plain Jane Taco I have become comfortably numb

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    I haven't read this whole thread. So my answer may not be timely or relevant at this point. But here goes...

    You already have your answer. I think you know that. Most of the time when people come "looking for advice" it really means they just need some reassurance that the decision they've already made to themselves is the right one.

    You have to leave her....and you know that. Don't marry this girl with some illusion that the "magic of marriage" is going to change her.

    Woman love to throw around things like, "he's not worthy of you" or "he doesn't deserve you". Well guess what? It works the other way around too. She isn't worthy.

    Don't marry this woman only to have your guts splattered all over the place a couple of years from now....and lose half your shit in the process.

    As for the reason she may be cheating? Who knows? But I love how society stacks the cards against men. If you cheat, you're a "dog" or a "peice of shit" (and to be fair, maybe you are). But if the woman cheats it's..."oh, he drove me into the arms of another man".
     
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  7. Oct 10, 2019 at 3:14 PM
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    Steves104x4

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  8. Oct 10, 2019 at 3:23 PM
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    Not sure why you are even asking. Your post is replete with all the reasons you need to convince yourself of what you already know you need to do. It isn't easy - neither is going through all this after you are married - with kids - divorced and (although it's shitty it's true) paying child support.

    Make a plan, get your finances in order, do what YOU need to do for YOU to be safe and stable and....

    [​IMG]
     
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  9. Oct 10, 2019 at 4:16 PM
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    Guys theres no point in beating a dead horse here. We’ve given him opinions that he asked for, just not the ones he wanted to hear.
    The OP has made up his mind on the matter so all we can do is wish him all the best after the marriage, and move on.
    Good luck OP.
     
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  10. Oct 10, 2019 at 7:32 PM
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    Make sure you post back here when you find her cheating on you........
     
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  11. Oct 10, 2019 at 7:38 PM
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    Love is blind...and apparently retarded too
     
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    Arizona now!!!
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  13. Oct 10, 2019 at 7:48 PM
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    None of this matters now, we are just a bunch of dicks on the internet. We tried.
     
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  14. Oct 10, 2019 at 8:26 PM
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    Arizona now!!!
    Pause thread. Because this is only the beginning...IMO.
     
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  15. Oct 10, 2019 at 9:30 PM
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    wedding is in a month..which means bachelorette party.

    he will be back
     
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  16. Oct 11, 2019 at 9:37 AM
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    Arizona now!!!
    yeah...I can only imagine the texts/phone #'s in her phone after the bachlorette party...
     
  17. Oct 11, 2019 at 9:47 AM
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    OP, come on man. You know its easier to break if off now instead of when theres rings and legal shit involved. :evil::facepalm:
     
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  18. Oct 11, 2019 at 9:53 AM
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    kgarrett11

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    Ah man, at least "postpone" the wedding for sure. Hope it works out bud!
     
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  19. Oct 11, 2019 at 10:05 AM
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    We've all had a say, some a little more polished than others, but pretty much all the points have been made.

    To quote my great uncle when I was a little shaver on his farm after trying to pet the bull he warned me about":

    "Will, a few people you can just warn and they'll take it to heart".

    "A few more people you can reason with and they come around".

    "And then there's everyone else, you included, who just gotta pee on that electric fence for themselves".

    Wisdom in that old man. Should have paid more attention.........but......lots of electric fences were callin'.

    OP: Hope your electric fence turns out to be unplugged. ;)
     
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  20. Oct 11, 2019 at 10:36 AM
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    Arizona now!!!
    those are very true words! Some people ask for advice then dont take the advice you give then down the road come to the conclusion you gave the right advice to begin with but they endured much pain and heartache which they could have avoided had they listened to you in the first place...
     
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