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Need Some Guidance/Reassurance

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussion' started by 1999TacoMan, Oct 4, 2019.

  1. Oct 4, 2019 at 12:58 PM
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    StayinStock

    StayinStock WHATEVER

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  2. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:06 PM
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    4x4_Angel

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    I can't agree with this more!!! Shauna are you my sister from another mister??? We are so damn like minded!!!

    Your fiance sounds like a female version of my ex husband.... And trust me.... Your gut is hardly ever wrong!!! You don't want to end up married with kids and still deal with this shit....

    Does this seem to fit your relationship with her?

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    If it does.... Just run! Because she will NEVER change!
     
  3. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:10 PM
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    JaCado

    JaCado I make bad choices

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    This is why she is "internet Mom".;)
     
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  4. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:12 PM
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    Rock Lobster

    Rock Lobster knows nothing, yet an expert in everything.

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    Ive been there. Did a whole year of counseling after finding some shady shit on her phone. During that year we really worked hard on my flaws, but never on hers - in the end, it did nothing to help the mistrust. (Also, she wound up cheating anyway.)

    Once the trust is gone, its gone. Suspicion will just lead to more fighting, which will lead to more suspicion. Which will give her legitimate excuse to go out and blatantly cheat, in a weird, twisted way.

    Postpone the wedding, and prepare to start unwinding from the relationship. Alarm bells are sounding in your head, and I applaud you for being in touch enough with your emotions to pay attention to that. As others have said, take some time to work on yourself, but only for the benefit of yourself.


    EDIT: Noticed you're in Ft Worth. I wouldn't mind hitting up a brewery if you need someone to hang with.
     
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  5. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:13 PM
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    4x4spiegel

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    Judging by that post, she's earned it.
     
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    su.b.rat

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    seriously. i'm 50 with 3 kids and my mom is still telling me to marry a nice Jewish girl. o_O
     
  8. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:25 PM
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    rene_weenie

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    My heart goes out to you man. I think we've all been through something like this at a point in our lives. The proof is there, she's not going to stop. As hard as it is, you gotta cut ties and go back to CA. She is not going to tell you the truth that she hooked up with a guy at a bar and had a one night stand. She sounds like she's trying to play innocent, then to put that shit on you that you haven't been affectionate? You know it's not gonna change so don't marry her, and move on literally, as far away as you can.
     
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  9. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:26 PM
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    Rrowdy

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    If I’ve learned one thing over many years it’s that you never ever want to remain in a relationship when the stench of mistrust
    permeates the air.
    As others have stated, RUN! Before having Second thoughts and staying, run before the wedding, run before
    She gets pregnant and run before you ruin your life. Run while you still have the chance and good luck!
     
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  10. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:32 PM
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    Sweet T

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    This is no joke, get yourself tested for STD’s.
     
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    SRH

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    :fistbump: Even tho I’m younger than some of you ;)
     
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  12. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:35 PM
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    CttAznRanger

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    Shit, I'm one of the younger ones too...
     
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    Drainbung

    Drainbung Somedays you are the show....

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  14. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:38 PM
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    1999TacoMan

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    Depending on where the conversation I'll be having with her later today goes and her reaction, it will dictate what my heart truly wants to do.

    As for the brewery, I will strongly keep that in mind. I haven't had the chance to hit up one since I moved out here to DFW.
     
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  15. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:40 PM
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    wilcam47

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    nope spot on!
     
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    SRH

    SRH My horns hold up my halo

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    Oh, I’m not “younger” just younger than @JaCado :devil: I’m 47.
     
  17. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:44 PM
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    CttAznRanger

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    Just remember, don't let her jerk you around with the things she says. Remember all the red flags that have popped up and what everyone here has said.
     
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    CttAznRanger

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    Yeah, I'm real young then. 26...
     
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  19. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:46 PM
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    CttAznRanger

    CttAznRanger Crazy NE Asian with the Cali Lean (temporary)

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    This also means to not let her give you lies to believe in. Don't let her give you false hope and promises. If she truly loves you, you wouldn't be in this situation, you wouldn't have to check her conversations and find out she is hanging out with random people.
     
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  20. Oct 4, 2019 at 1:47 PM
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    I only read the first little part, my advice or way I see things. If you don’t have trust in your partner, you will not be happy in your relationship. You will spend way too much energy wondering or thinking about can I trust them.

    So, if you can’t trust your partner now, move on.
     

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