Prayer for my Marriage

So sorry to hear this is ongoing Mark. I've told you some of my own past issues and I know that you just simply want what is best for your entire family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family my friend.
If you ever need a sounding board just give me a call anytime.

 

I don't believe in God, so I don't believe in prayer.
I do believe there comes a time to hire a attorney specializing in family law. To protect yourself. To protect your finical assets. To protect your parental rights.
I don't know if this marriage is over, but from what you've posted, she thinks it is.
I'm sorry I can't be of more help.

 

Communication is critical - best of luck to you both, I'll add you to my prayers

 

Unfortunate that you guys are finding yourselves in this scenario, especially with a daughter. I'm not really the praying type, nor am I marriage expert (first anniversary coming up) but I agree that understanding "love languages" helps tremendously in communication. I hope you guys can make things work out for the best.

Loving her and her knowing you love her are two different beasts. Same goes for her loving you and you knowing it to be true. It sounds like your faith is very important to you, and you want that to be the focus. Should you discover having God be the center of your relationship doesn't work out for you, maybe try focusing on the wordly aspects...I know it sounds weird but at the end of the day it's the wordly aspects that can and will ruin a marriage. From that point, refocus things around your faith.

 

Mark hate to hear this is the case, it's ultimately your decision but I know you will do what is best for your daughter if it means yall have to be apart. I do not wish this is the case but everything happens for a reason whether you understand now or not. I really wish you the best of luck in what the best outcome should be.

 

Did you see the update?

 

Still praying for you bud. God knows Ive been through some ups and downs myself over the last 15 years. From what I can remember during first few years after child birth mine went wacky too. Im not sure if it was due to a hormonal imbalance or what but man was it rough. Sometimes its depression and medical intervention is required. Good luck.

RJM

 

Reads like he did to me.

 

I got married because I wanted to support my (now) ex-wife and be there for her, she got married because of selfish reasons and benefits she had out of the marriage...I was always very successful with what I did and after all she was holding me back and was blaming me for her not being happy when she requested to get a divorce I made that happen too, like I made everything happen before...she turned really bitter towards the things she enjoyed before and in the end I'm more than happy that we are going separate ways!
My now girlfriend and I support each other and are there for each other - this one-sided BS drains you and you can't make her do the right thing, people have to make mistakes, some just need to learn the hard way.
I know that I'm in a much better place now, and happy with how everything turned out in the end.

 

I hope yall make it op, but you have to do what ever is right for the kids. Picking up your daughter from the Wal-mart parking lot is rough. I have been in this type of situation from a kids standpoint and it can be life changing. I am glad you are doing everything you can ,but please keep the child in needs first. Hope this year or next can be the one for you and your wife.

 

Thanks to everyone for the prayer, suggestions and support. I knew I could count on you guys.

 

I'll pray for you and your family Mark.

I apologize in advance as I don't want this to come across as insensitive or harsh. Having watched this thread for as long as it's been on TW, I want to put in my 2 cents. I hope you don't spend too much of what life you have in a state of limbo. Kids excluded (sometimes), ending a bad relationship can end up making a better and happier life for all. Knowing that time is the problem. Again, I will pray for you and please accept my note in the wat it's intended.

 

If she moved back in and is working on the relationship I would not say she thinks the marriage is over.

Still praying for you OP

 

How's it going Mark? Been thinking about you the past few days and wanted to check in and see if there was anything you needed?

 

I love my heavenly Father and I know He loves me. He already loves you both and all the hard work you have already put into your marriage. Maybe you just need a little bit more knowledge, the kind that only He can provide. Please read this.

http://www.familylife.com/weekendtoremember2015/about/reviews

I came from a good home and have loving parents. If I don’t think and just listen to my emotions I am a prissy, high maintenance, drama queen. In two days at this conference I learned more about myself and what it takes to be a supportive and loving woman than I had learned in all the years prior. My husband says the conference and what he learned from it had a similar impact on him. Please just read the reviews and image what was in the hearts of the people who wrote them before they attended the conference. Please consider going.

He loves you and your wife and He wants you to be happy, together.

 

Praying that the Lord will continue to bless your family. IMHO Pride breaks up a lot of relationships... My first marriage included. Jesus is #1, closely followed by family. The family that prays together, stays together. A marriage is a bond between the man and the woman. Whatever is breaking that bond needs to be put on hold or removed from the situation. Jesus loves us despite our faults... We should also love our spouses the same. Listening is hard for most men and listening without getting our feelings hurt is very difficult... There's that PRIDE again !!!

May the Lord bless you and keep you, may He make his face to shine upon you, may He grant you His wisdom and give you His peace. Amen

 

Not to be nosey but I wish he would come back on to say that his marriage is okay.

 

Mark, I am praying for you and your relationship. I had a truly rough patch in mine as well. Prayer helps a lot. I took this advise from a friend: When you (and your Wife) brought a child into this world, both of your needs take a back seat at least until the kid(s) reaches 18 years. My youngest was two. (now 12).

Learn the love languages of your bride, http://www.5lovelanguages.com/resources/free-study-guides/

Also check out Marriage builders- they have great help. A great metaphor to picture status of love, is the love bank ( http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3200_love.html )Right now your account is overdrawn, so you cannot afford to withdrawal any funds... Deposits are required.

I had to change my expectations as we moved forward. So did she. I think most couples have unrealistic expectations of a marriage relationship, and of other hugely flawed human beings..

 

Thanks for all the prayers guys, they are sooooo appreciated. I am sorry I haven't been around, I was out of the country a while for work. We are still working on things, I wish they were better than they currently are, but am thankful everyday that we are still together and trying.

 

You got it Mark, happy to do that. For something that takes no time at all it can make all the difference in the world.