Trim package DIY upgrades '09 / 10 Tacoma

Looking to get either the 2009 or 2010 Tacoma access or double cab. Need cruise control, intermittent wipes and electronic mirrors. Do not need the TRD package as I do not off-road and only tow a 16 foot Jon boat and 4x8 utility trailer.

Questions: Are intermittent wipes included in any package that has cruise control? If not, are they easy to add? Have heard the wiring is installed, just need to change the wiper switch. Know cruise can not be added easily.

Can fog lights be added easily? Is the wiring for them installed, just ned to add the lights and switch? Not concerned with fog light on headlight switch, can wire so they come on with the headlights.

Have heard the seats are not comfortable. How are yours?

What is the difference between the trim level that includes color matched over fenders and chrome grill / bumpers? Some have black over fenders and grill / bumpers.