Well looks like it's over

I second that. I had arguments with my ex wife that I know my son overheard. Even being in the other room. It's hard with little ones. We are civil now knowing that we are parents first. The kids need to see that no matter what that their parents are supportive of them. My ex and I know our son loves his mother and father equally and in turn I show the respect she plays in his life and in return she does the same to me. Right now more than ever we as parents need to do the best we can to raise the next generation appropriately.

I wish you the best. I hope you can reconcile but at the end of the day..... it is what it is..

 

I won't speak for anyone other than me,but I feel badly anytime a family is in potential breakup.I'm not saying it may not be the best thing in the long run,but I can assure you that it indeed "sucks for the kid".

These people are facing a difficult situation and Yeah,.....I'm sorry.

 

You are doing the right thing no matter how it plays out. Better to be apart and happy than misreable with your wife for your son. He will understand later in life, just keep it peaceful. Your doing good. Best of luck.

 

x2,words from my heart as well brotha............


bigK...........as of your last post, you are 'working' on a relationship, so keep up the 'work'.........relationships aren't free from work. I wish you well, my Disney vacation suggestion friend

 

On the emotional side, that sucks.

On the real-life side, shut off her access to the money, even if it means taking everything out you don't want her to have and creating an account under just your name at another bank.

Take if from someone that didn't learn the first time...but did the second time...when the mortgage and car payment checks bounced.

 

This is the toughest time for you and from your past post you seem to have your shit together. The biggest thing right now is to focus on your son and how he feels about the situation. At his age he might blame himself for the breakup even though he may not say it. Take it one day at a time and talk with local services, friends, religious leaders, any source you feel comfortable with, The important thing is your son's and your state of mind in dealing with the situation.

 

I totally agree. The breakup of any family is sad. I hope you can work things out. I don't recommend staying together just for your son because he'll feel the insincerity of the relationship and probably the resentment you'd be feelig toward each other. Kids are pretty smart you know. As long as you both can be civil to one another and never say anything bad about the other in front of or to him, he'll be okay. Not to say he won't be sad for awhile but at least he won't have to live in a stressfilled home. All that being said, I still hope you both are able to make things work. Maybe you needed something like this to happen in order for the lines of communication to open up again. Good luck.